Ignorance is bliss? Out of sight, out of mind?
As unappealing and as crazy as it sounds, I think it would be beneficial and even healthy for us to sometimes reflect on the bad experiences. Sometimes when we have a fight with someone or we have a bad day or we fail at something important, we just want to remove ourselves from the situation, switch off for a bit and do something completely mindless and effortless. And don’t get me wrong, it is good to unwind and take a bit of time away from an unpleasant or stressful. But with that time comes perspective, and with perspective, I think its good to look back on that experience or that day and think a little bit about how things went wrong, what could have been better and what could be done next time. And I don’t mean to reflect about how the experience should never have happened and then get worked up about it all over again, but just take even ten minutes to think about the situation a little. How did it make you feel? What was your part in it? What were the parts you were in control of? If the bad situation is on-going, you can then take a different perspective on it or take the best actions possible, and if the situation arises again, you can experiment with new ways of dealing with it. Sometimes being a little less ignorant might help you to have a little less things to be ignorant about.