“You must be the person you have never had the courage to be. Gradually, you will discover that you are that person, but until you can see this clearly, you must pretend and invent” Paulo Coelho
I never thought I’d find myself encouraging people to ‘fake it’, because people who create a completely disguise to the person they actually are will never get you far in life and it would be so tiring to keep up. But I believe that for certain areas of your life that you want to improve on, ‘faking it’ can be a good way to start. If you want to become more confident, for example, you sometimes need to trick yourself into thinking you’re confident or practice being confident even when you feel like you’re not, and then eventually you will find that you believe yourself to be confident. Same goes with food, for example; if you try something enough times, even if you don’t like it to begin with, you can train your taste buds to the taste and again you’ll find that you grow to like it. If you want to be ‘happy’, motivated, successful, you have to allow yourself to be. I’m not advising that you transform yourself into a completely different person by faking it, because all that will do is rip away any foundation you have for your character and you’ll end up lost. I affirm that you should be you, and you are beautiful the way you are, but practicing at something and telling yourself to believe something is a useful way to improve, not change, parts about yourself.