“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.” Pride and Prejudice, Jane Austen
One of my biggest weaknesses is not giving myself enough credit. When someone compliments me, I automatically try to find a flaw in their argument, whether in my head or out loud. If someone commented on my good grades, I would say that everybody in the class got good grades and that mine were nothing special. If someone congratulated me on getting far in a job application progress, I would think to myself that maybe there weren’t enough good applications in that round and my name had to be put forward to make up numbers. I still do this and I’m sure others do. Why do we devalue ourselves and put ourselves down? Are we proud of ourselves, if not openly then at least internally? I think being able to be proud of your achievements, however small, is the key to future success and happiness. I think some people are scared of pride. Pride is usually paired with arrogance, but pride can also equate with confidence. It’s a fine line, but when someone else brings up your own success, I think it’s ok to be proud, because that’s confidence not arrogance. Arrogance would be bringing it up yourself. And arrogance isn’t always a bad thing, not in small doses. Being proud of yourself will allow you to see success in other adventures, to accept opportunities that will challenge and teach you, and to find satisfaction in your accomplishments. You have made those accomplishments after all, don’t let anyone take that away from you, especially not yourself.