If each of us had to draw our life from one point on a piece of paper to another, the line would be anything but straight. Loops, tangents and squiggles are just a natural part of life. And we shouldn’t be so hard on ourselves because of them.
Of course, we should try to embrace and learn from all the bumps we encounter along the way, but it is also just as most important that we learn to let go of them. Hanging onto self-criticism, embarrassment, what ifs, or regret won’t help us. It won’t help our self-esteem. It won’t help us to tackle problems. It won’t help us in unexpected or uncomfortable situations. It won’t help us in the future.
Don’t let your past determine your future. Write down the moment that haunts you on a piece of paper and seal it in an envelope. Stop punishing yourself. Instead, forgive yourself and move on.