Question of the week: How are you spending your time?
It’s a question I’ve been asking myself a lot lately. We all have the same amount of time in a day, yet we spend it so differently.
Some of us go after our goals with everything we have but don’t stop to enjoy it, some of us dream bigger than our imagination but hardly put anything into action, and some of us go along with the path set out for us even if it’s not what we want. And there’s every other combination in between.
We all have less and less time as we get older. Are you wasting it? We need to be more conscious of the excuses we’re using and be more honest about what is holding us back. Only then can we move onto what makes us happier and keeps us fulfilled. We might not spend every day to its highest potential, but we can always do better, before it runs out.
To me, feminism is about equality. It’s about a seat at the table, a voice, recognition. It’s about inclusion. It’s about transcending differences. To me, being a feminist means supporting each other – man or woman – not tearing them down. Being a feminist is about making room for everyone, not about being on top. Being a feminist shouldn’t be an embarrassment. It shouldn’t be an accusation. It shouldn’t only be for women. To me, the foundations of feminism are very real; women are treated as lesser to men in many ways all around the world, sometimes in places that feel so far removed from us, and sometimes right under our noses. To me, feminism is something we should all strive for – whether man or woman. How wouldn’t we all benefit from equality, opportunity and love? Let’s keep going until we don’t need to talk about it anymore. I know I will. #HappyInternationalWomensDay
In life, we’ll face setbacks, obstacles and injustice. But don’t give up on life. Never stop fighting for what you believe in, for what is right, and never stop believing it can come true. What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger. And love will win against hate.
We are constantly consuming, whether consciously or unintentionally. We listen to people’s thoughts and beliefs and we soak up different energies. We are inspired by the world around us and find examples in those we look up to. We take in people’s opinions and place their expectations on our shoulders. We are spurred into action by other people’s actions and words. They’re all influencing us and create our perspectives. We need to be aware of what we’re absorbing and what we’re overlooking, by how much and in what light. What we consume defines the courses we take.
How do we measure who we are? Too often than not, we focus too heavily on what we’re not and not enough on what we are. Some of us feel it through the weight of other people’s opinions. Some of us feel it through the burden of our own opinions. We often underestimate our talents and exaggerate our flaws. Why are we so hung up on the negatives? Shift the perspective a little. Stop belittling yourself. You have so much to offer. And so much of you is beautiful, even the imperfect, damaged parts. Be proud of who you are. Appreciate it’s value. And flaunt it.
Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.
What couldn’t you live without? What are you grateful for? What do you take for granted? The sound of laughter from loved ones. The comfort of a rooted home. The passion found in a new project. The thrill of a new adventure. Crossing the finish line. Freedom. Integrity. Vision. Our soul. Whatever it is, that is what we should work for, fight for and hold onto. Don’t lose sight of it. Things have a way of slipping out of our grip when we’re not holding tight enough.
What is success to you? Perhaps it is the acquisition and possession of something, money, a title, a legacy. Maybe it is stability and comfort, having a want for nothing, or at least enough to be content and satisfied. Perhaps it is achievement and accomplishment, reaching a milestone or receiving an award. Maybe it is adventure and spontaneity, experimenting and learning. Perhaps it is all about confidence, inner peace and happiness. Maybe it is appreciating the little things, but not getting too worked up about them either. Perhaps it is failure, mistakes and embarrassments, and growing stronger because of them. Maybe it is survival, simply waking up each morning and trying our best, no matter what the day throws at us. Perhaps, it is all about balance and abundance. Maybe, as Maya Angelou suggests, success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it.
What is success to you? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!