It’s said that our language was born out of our need to gossip. But why have we made it so normal? We tear people down instead of lifting them up. We judge people instead of accepting them. People become afraid to be themselves, become obsessed with reaching perfection, become ruthless towards anyone who poses a threat to their fragile sense of security. And sadly, the cycle continues. Let’s use our words kindly. Let’s give people a hand. Let’s accept everyone for who they are. Let’s celebrate our differences. Imagine what we could do by spreading love instead of hate. How much better the world would be – even yours.
It’s easy to say we would have done something differently. It’s also easy to wallow in a mistake. The hard part isn’t battling with the guilt, humiliation or frustration, it’s rather accepting your mistakes, learning from them and moving on. Sounds simple but we don’t do it often enough. Sometimes you’ve got to forgive yourself. Sometimes you’ve got to push past the pessimism. Because taking the easier road or the harder one distinguishes the fighters from the cowards, the believers from the doubters. It’s hard to fight for yourself and to believe in yourself. But who knows what you can achieve if you do. A mistake recharges the fighter and the believer. Mistakes happen to everyone, but it’s up to you what happens next.
Hate is a deceiving emotion. We often think it makes us feel powerful, mighty and fierce. But hate is devious, manipulative and subtle. It slowly clouds over your mind. It slowly weighs you down. And it slowly eats away at your heart. Hate is a burden we carry without properly realising. It never does as much damage to another as it does to ourselves. Try practicing love instead. And I don’t only mean love in the traditional sense of kindness and passion. But also forgiveness, and if not forgiveness then acceptance, and if not acceptance then tolerance. Try practicing love with yourself as much as with others. It works wonders.
A lot can happen in a lifetime. Sometimes life softens us and other times it hardens us. Sometimes life inspires us and other times it disheartens us. Sometimes life favours us and other times it breaks us. Life is a challenge for all of us. But don’t let it get the best of you. Even in the coldest of winters, stay warm. Don’t let life snatch away your trust, love, persistence, faith, courage, instinct, forgiveness, acceptance, strength, gratitude, honesty, positivity. Stay warm on the inside no matter how brutal it gets on the outside. If we do, the ice will eventually thaw.
Love is a strong feeling of affection. Real love is intense, passionate and unfaltering. For those we love, we go the extra mile, we accept them for who they are, and we lift them up when they are low. Imagine we loved ourselves as much as we loved others. How much more would we give? How much more would we forgive? How much more would we accept? We shouldn’t be the exception to the rule. It’s ok to share some love with ourselves. In fact, it should be mandatory. How can we expect to love someone else or for someone else to love us, before we love ourselves? We deserve the truest, realest forms of love. And it begins with ourselves.
The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable ~ Paul Tillich
Quote of the day.
Tis the season to be jolly. There’s something about the holiday time that changes our outlook on life. And that’s primarily because it’s a time for giving, for generosity and for kindness. We’re more forgiving and accepting of others’ flaws and mistakes. We’re more charitable and hospitable towards those less fortunate. We open ourselves up, letting love both infiltrate and radiate. Christmas time really goes to show how much giving can boost our happiness, our energy and our sense of worth. It’s a beautiful cycle that shouldn’t be underestimated or broken. It’s a spirit that we should hold onto all throughout the year.
Only when our weaknesses are exposed do we stumble upon our strength. We shouldn’t be afraid to acknowledge our weaknesses. We all have gaps in our knowledge. But asking questions can only bring us closer to the answer. We all have something we lack in our capabilities. But testing, failing and learning can only bring us closer to our desired results. We all have insecurities. But accepting them as a part of who we are can only enhance our natural beauty. Strength is realised when we admit our weaknesses. Weakness and strength walk hand in hand. There’s no need to tear them apart.
The concept of confidence can be misleading. Many of us confuse confidence with popularity. Many of us confuse confidence with ideal beauty. Many of us confuse confidence with arrogance. Although confidence can be associated with these, it isn’t reserved for the chosen few. It is rooted in humility, acceptance and love for who you are, no matter how quirky and flawed that is. Confidence can be quiet but mighty. Be your most authentic self, because that’s all we should ever be and aspire to be: ourselves.
We hear that it only takes a few seconds for someone to decide whether they like someone else or not. We can always make a good impression. But we’re still all different. Sometimes we’re not always performing or presenting our best self. And we all have different versions of what our best selves are. Instead of writing people off, we should understand and accept people’s flaws, emotions and impressions. We should give people a chance – even more than one, not just a few seconds. Because it’s ok for each of us to both be ourselves or have a bad day. Let’s spend less time judging others. Let’s embrace other people’s differences and work to find respect and rapport with them. Let people be themselves, as much as we want to be ourselves too.