Happiness takes work. We find it in accomplishments, in relationships, in dreams. And they take work. But we have to remember to sometimes stop, wherever we are, and take in that moment to be happy. There’s so much to be happy about right in front of us too, whether we’re at the bottom of the mountain, in the middle of a tightrope, or at the finish line. Don’t forget to be happy during your pursuit to happiness too. Otherwise, can we ever be happy at all?
Our decision to believe we can or believe we can’t sets us on significantly altered paths. A lot of the time, we believe we can’t, often because of our past, our cultures, and those around us. But we have to remember that these shouldn’t define what we can accomplish. We’re constantly gaining experience, getting smarter, and evolving. Our culture just portrays things as they are and have been, not necessarily how things should be. And we are all too different to each other to even compare between us. Just because someone else cannot achieve something, doesn’t mean we can’t. If you can conceive something and you can believe in it, then you can achieve it. Don’t let anything or anyone stop you.
Five questions we should ask ourselves everyday
- What do I want to accomplish today? (Did I accomplish what I wanted to?) – Starting each day with intention, however small, sparks our desire to have a good day. Everything worth having will require work, so taking a few steps everyday towards our dreams or goals will make all the difference.
- What would make today great? (What made today great?) – Starting each day with a positive mind injects positivity into everything we touch, whether that be other people or what we do. Consciously thinking about what would make us happy pushes us to find those things that make us happy. At the end of the day, we might find something completely unexpected made our day great. And that’s because a positive mind invites good vibes, which invites good things.
- What am I grateful for today? – Starting each day with a full heart reminds us of how lucky we are, especially during times when we feel like everything is against us. Gratitude brings perspective to what really matters.
- Have I expressed my love to my family and friends? – It’s simple: a day shouldn’t go by without expressing our love to our loved ones. Even just a phone call or an ‘I love you’ will suffice. Too often, we take love for granted. But really, it’s the only thing that counts.
- What would make tomorrow better? (What did I learn today?) – We’re not perfect, and that’s ok. Sometimes we make mistakes. Whether we had a great day or a bad day, there’s always something we can take with us from today in our efforts to be better tomorrow.
Every journey begins with one step. Winning gold at the Olympics, climbing up Mount Everest, and walking on the moon – they all began with one step. Whoever we see ahead of us travelling a similar path, whoever we see ahead as victors of what we want to achieve, they too started with one step. It’s not impossible for us. We might not all be carrying the same load. But all those who are prosperous and victorious have waded through their own battles. We all have the ability to begin and to do our best. We can all reach new triumphs, new heights and new lands, if we take the first step. Anywhere worth being is worth working for. What are you waiting for?
Don’t let the fear of the time it will take to accomplish something stand in your way of doing it. The time will pass anyway; we might just as well put that passing time to the best possible use. Earl Nightingale
In an attempt to measure success, we inevitably measure failure, obstacles, boundaries. But do we value them or value the absence of them? Many of us view failure as a sign of weakness, imperfection, and unoriginality. But that is not the case at all, as long as we do not allow any failure, any obstacle, any boundary to be point at which we end the journey. Every time we overcome, re-cooperate, re-organise, our goal becomes even more important. The success isn’t made sweeter by how quickly or effortlessly we got there, but instead by how much we were willing to struggle, to put in the time, to never give up. You measure the size of the accomplishment by the obstacles you had to overcome to reach your goals.
What is success to you? Perhaps it is the acquisition and possession of something, money, a title, a legacy. Maybe it is stability and comfort, having a want for nothing, or at least enough to be content and satisfied. Perhaps it is achievement and accomplishment, reaching a milestone or receiving an award. Maybe it is adventure and spontaneity, experimenting and learning. Perhaps it is all about confidence, inner peace and happiness. Maybe it is appreciating the little things, but not getting too worked up about them either. Perhaps it is failure, mistakes and embarrassments, and growing stronger because of them. Maybe it is survival, simply waking up each morning and trying our best, no matter what the day throws at us. Perhaps, it is all about balance and abundance. Maybe, as Maya Angelou suggests, success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it.
What is success to you? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!