A bad day does preface a bad life. Sometimes things go wrong, but it will be right again. Sometimes things get tough, but there will be light again. Take comfort that everything passes. Tomorrow will be better.
We all have off-days. And that’s ok. Sometimes we have a slow start or a dramatic end. Sometimes we keep emitting negative energy and other times we keep absorbing it. Sometimes we’re turned inside out and upside down. Sometimes we’re exhausted and tested, and other times we’re lonely and forgotten. Feel free to wallow a little. But whatever the bad day, we can always brighten it up or turn it around, even if that means waiting for the clock to strike midnight to start afresh. A bad day doesn’t equal a bad life. Sometimes we just need a few to put the good ones into perspective.
We hear that it only takes a few seconds for someone to decide whether they like someone else or not. We can always make a good impression. But we’re still all different. Sometimes we’re not always performing or presenting our best self. And we all have different versions of what our best selves are. Instead of writing people off, we should understand and accept people’s flaws, emotions and impressions. We should give people a chance – even more than one, not just a few seconds. Because it’s ok for each of us to both be ourselves or have a bad day. Let’s spend less time judging others. Let’s embrace other people’s differences and work to find respect and rapport with them. Let people be themselves, as much as we want to be ourselves too.
Love keeps the world turning, because love is a language we can all speak. Love can switch the light on in someone’s dreary day. Love can lighten a heavy load. Love can lift someone up when they’re drifting down. Love nurtures love and then there’s a whole lot more to go round. So pass it on. Where there is love, there is life.
Bad days, bad luck, bad feeling. Arguments, loneliness, despair, hopelessness. Plans derailed, relationships crumbling, dreams faltering. Sometimes it just gets to the point where we can no longer climb out of our problems. But this isn’t the end. There’s something better on the horizon. We might have to sleep with our problems for a while; they don’t just vanish overnight. But we have to want better for ourselves. We have to be willing to work for it. We have to understand that life takes time. Keep holding on. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.
At the end of the day, especially a long or difficult day, there is nothing we crave more than sleep. Sometimes we are past tired, exhausted, and other times we need a good night’s rest to prepare for the next day. But it’s not always that simple. In that moment right before we go to sleep, our mind seems to defy any attempt at shutting down. Perhaps there is something we have been putting off thinking about during the day, and now when we no longer have anything to occupy ourselves with, it’s all we can focus on. Or perhaps the whole day has been an endless tally of annoyances, of feeling angry or worried, and when we finally come to rest, our mind is still too hyped up. We begin to feel all those emotions again.
It is important to remember that at night time all our emotions are heightened, particularly when we are tired. We go around in circles, we dip in and out of restless sleep, and we constantly focus on everything that is wrong. But those are products of our tiredness. Don’t give into them. Think about the things that make you happy or what you feel in control of. The best way you can deal with those issues that haunt you at night is to deal with them at a time when you can actually do something about them: tomorrow. Take a deep breath, take control of your emotions and keep calm. Tomorrow morning, you will realise how much more manageable the situation actually is.
Whether you’re filled with self-doubt and no self-confidence, or you know that you didn’t spend enough time writing and revising, anticipation hangs in that moment before receiving a grade. And once its there in your hand, completely unexpected and foreign in the worst way, there is no better way of describing the feeling other than like the end of the world, however clichéd it sounds.
Sitting in the toilets of the English Department at my university, I cried whilst reading over the comments of the paper I had worked so hard on. There wasn’t any possibility of me spending more time on that paper than I did. Is this really what defines my best? Does this mark define my abilities? How can I ever do better than this in the future? At the time, my answers to these questions fell to the negative end of the scale. And that is probably because my head was clouded with self-loathing and my throat clogged the sadness. But once I got over that initial stage I had to ask myself one final question: was I going to let myself be brought down by this unlucky experience, or was I going to pick myself up, take some action, and really show that marker what I could do? I hope everyone in a similar position would pick the second option. So here is a little action plan to get you started:
“We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails.” – Unknown Author