Times can be tough. Everyone experiences them in one form or another, and not only once. Even if we think others might have it easier, we’re all going through our own battles. It’s not our circumstances that make the difference, it’s who we are on the inside that counts. It’s about believing in yourself. It’s about unleashing that inner fire and burning those negative thoughts. It’s about believing in happier times. It’s about fighting for what you deserve and what you want out of life. It’s about becoming stronger and better. Circumstances might shape who we are, but we decide who that is. You decide what you’re made of.
In a time when we’re all exposed to one another online, it’s easy to confuse seeing with knowing. But we shouldn’t assume that glimpses of someone physically or virtually will give us a rounded picture of that person. It’s dangerous to do so, because we’re still oblivious to all the shadows of that person. To conclude that someone’s life is perfect is to ignore that everyone is fighting their own battles. To believe that someone’s life is perfect is to compare their highlights to our lowest points. It’s natural for us to forget that we don’t always know someone. But do not place those perceptions on someone. It will burden you both.
How often do you forgive? To what end do you forgive? What does forgiveness mean to you?
Forgiveness can be cleansing, but it needs to be used properly; forgiveness shouldn’t be a tool to escape tough situations or an act of submissiveness to being manipulated and pushed around. At the same time, we shouldn’t withhold forgiveness as a means of control or as a way to make ourselves feel worthy.
Forgiveness is powerful. It is important to remember that forgiveness doesn’t always mean we go back to the way things were or that we have to trust someone again. It means we accept the past and endeavour to make the future better. It means we let go of our negative energy towards others or ourselves and move on to focus on what lies in front of us. It means we learnt something from a mistake or hardship and we’re equipped for similar battles ahead. Use forgiveness wisely, not sparingly.
Even though our intended destinations are a part of the vision we have for ourselves, we try to remain grounded, by taking each step of our journey at a time, as the best route to success. But we need to make sure that each step we take in whichever direction we choose is anchored to the bigger picture, because that is what all our hard work will come too. Along our journey we will encounter obstacles, sometimes words, ideas, and beliefs, and other times structures, rules, and restrictions. We need to be careful that we don’t lose sight of that destination and exhaust ourselves by getting caught up in moments that don’t amount to anything and do no favours for us. Do not listen to people’s unkind words or doubt, don’t be weighed down by negativity and the past, and don’t be held back by trying to please everyone or placing your vision second to someone else’s. Save your energy for the battles that matter. Focus on the road ahead of you and focus on your destination. If you want it enough, nothing is standing in your way.
“You will never reach your destination if you stop and throw stones at every dog that barks” – Winston Churchill