Don’t let anyone tell you what to do with your life. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do with your body. Don’t let anyone tell you what to do with your money. Don’t let anyone tell you you’re not beautiful. Don’t let anyone tell you you won’t be successful. Don’t let anyone tell you you can’t do something. Don’t let someone tell you you’re smaller than them. Your life is your life. Your heart, your opinions, you passion, your voice should be the one you listen to above the noise of everyone else’s.
We’ve been taught from a young age to hide away or fix away our flaws. But in the Japanese art of Kintsugi, broken pottery is mended with gold. It stands out on purpose. The art celebrates the cracks and the eventualities that led to those cracks. The pot is seen as something more precious than before. The pot is seen as something that was never truly broken. Just like in Kintsugi, there is beauty in our imperfections. There are stories in our scars. There is strength born out of our flaws. Let’s stop hiding them away. We are stronger and more beautiful for having been broken.
If you look inside, you will find strength, you will find beauty, you will find wisdom. It’s easy to persuade ourselves that we’re not good enough, especially when it feels like everyone else is saying that too. But all the tools we need are right inside us. If you close your eyes and really look deep inside, you’ll find that voice of courage and love and faith. And then you need to hand a megaphone to that voice. Because you don’t deserve anything but words of love and optimism. They’ll be enough people out in the world trying to criticise you and bring you down, but don’t let them drown out your inner voice. You are strong, you are beautiful and you can conquer anything. You can be whoever you want to be.
We punish ourselves for the past. We punish ourselves for things outside our control. We punish ourselves for not fitting the perfect mould. Why do we torture ourselves? We need to stop dwelling on what we cannot change and shouldn’t need to change. We need to start embracing where we’ve been and where we’re going. We need to love who we are and work towards who we want to be. Because it’s going to be pretty awesome. Let’s not dull the sparkle.
The world is abundant. There’s so much to see, so much to do, so much to be. Pick people’s brains. Walk through open doors. Talk to strangers. Take a new route home. Go somewhere you’ve never been before. Experience as much as you can, including mistakes, failure, risks, struggle, uncertainty. Because that will bring us closer to experiencing the beauty of life. There’s so much on offer. We just need to take it.
It’s hard for us to tell ourselves that we’re beautiful and intelligent and loved. Maybe that’s because we haven’t been loved in the past or maybe that’s because we have been taught not to love ourselves. But we are all beautiful and intelligent and loved, even if we can’t see it. Our differences and our weaknesses only enhance that beauty, intelligence and love. Let’s stop doubting our worth, our capability or our strength. It’s all there, even if we don’t see it.
Your worth is not your beauty. It’s not the number of inches around your waist. It’s not your intellect. It’s not the number in your bank account. It’s not your mistakes or your past. You’re more than labels and boxes and opinions. You always deserve to give yourself another chance. You always deserve to be loved and to love yourself. You always deserve to choose who you are and where you want to go. Your worth is infinite. Especially when you stay true to yourself. Your worth is on the inside.
We owe it to life, to the world, and most of all to ourselves to keep going. To pick ourselves up when we fall over. To love ourselves when we’re broken. There’s heartache in life. Sometimes we have to remind ourselves that things could be worse. And when things are worse, we have to remind ourselves that things will be better again. Let’s not allow heartache to become the soundtrack of our lives. We have to keep believing in the beauty of life and finding it. It’s not always easy, but it’s what makes life worth living in spite of the harder times.