Death is inescapable. But we shouldn’t let it haunt us like the ghost we may become. Because we’re alive right now and that’s what counts. We can live in whichever way we chose, be whoever we want to be and go wherever we take ourselves. Don’t underestimate it. Don’t take it for granted. Don’t forget that you’re alive. Someday we might die, but on all the other days, we will not.
There’s no roadmap. There’s no elevator. There’s no manual. But there’s a journey. And you’re in the driver’s seat. You determine what you do and where you’ll go. You only know what you know but that will serve you well. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be worth it – and most importantly it’s going to be yours. Keep your eyes ahead and your foot on the accelerator.
It’s easy to punish ourselves for the things we’ve done in the past. But the truth is, since then, we’ve changed – we’re not that person of the past anymore. And more importantly, we can change. Stop beating yourself up for something you did when you were a different person. Start focusing on where you’re going and how you’re going about it. Don’t let the sadness of the past rob the happiness of now. Always forgive, but never forget, learn from your mistakes, but never regret.
It’s hard for us to tell ourselves that we’re beautiful and intelligent and loved. Maybe that’s because we haven’t been loved in the past or maybe that’s because we have been taught not to love ourselves. But we are all beautiful and intelligent and loved, even if we can’t see it. Our differences and our weaknesses only enhance that beauty, intelligence and love. Let’s stop doubting our worth, our capability or our strength. It’s all there, even if we don’t see it.
Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore. ~ Cheryl Strayed
Don’t lose those parts of you that make you think outside the box. Don’t lose those parts of you that keep you grounded. Don’t lose those parts of you that make you laugh uncontrollably, love unconditionally and live unapologetically. Don’t keep trying to fit inside someone else’s lines. Don’t lose those parts of you that make you you.
If you were to give yourself advice, how different would it be to the advice you’d give a friend in a similar situation? We often tend to be harsher on ourselves, less forgiving and sympathetic, with higher expectations and levels of criticism. We don’t always give ourselves advice, but give ourselves lectures. But we deserve some compassion, love and understanding from ourselves. We’re not perfect. We make mistakes. And that’s ok. If we learn and grow, there’s no unwritten rule saying we should punish ourselves. We have to take care of ourselves. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Stay true to yourself. Live how you want to, love who you want to, be who you want to. Extend the same right to others to be true to themselves. We don’t all agree and we’re not all the same, but that’s not something to be afraid of or something we should try to control. It’s something we should embrace, nurture and celebrate. Being different isn’t a curse, it’s a gift. We all emit our own light from our own source. We can all shine together – there’s no need to put someone else out. The more of us who shine, the brighter the world is.
You can be anyone and still be happy. You can be anywhere and still be happy. You can do anything and still be happy. There are no set ingredients and no set recipes for happiness. No matter what family you’re born into, what your past looks like or what mistakes you’ve made, you can still be happy. It’s about being true to who you are, being grateful for what you have and being hopeful for what is to come. Be who you want to be and do what you want to do, and happiness will not be far behind.
You’re never too old to start something new. You’re never too old to start something again. It’s just the beginning, wherever you are. Life should be a pile of tickets, not a set of barriers. We can do anything, be anything, go anywhere. Our journey doesn’t have to be a straight line – and most likely it won’t be. Just go for it. Live as hard as you can.