When we’re aware of what brings us down, we can let it go and watch ourselves rise up.
The energy outside affects the energy inside. People who complain all the time, people who blame you for their problems, people who bring you down, people who laugh at your dreams, people absorbed in their own worlds, people who always take and never give, these are all toxic people, if they do it consistently. People who do not add any love or joy to your life aren’t worth keeping. It isn’t selfish to cut them out, take a break, or limit the time you see them.
Other people’s opinions
We’re haunted by other people’s words, opinions and thoughts. Maybe we want to please someone. Maybe we think someone knows better. Maybe we feel we don’t have a choice. But if we’re never listening to our own heart, we’ll never feel truly satisfied, content or excited about life. We’ll add water to the seeds of regret, bitterness and misery. Do what makes you happy; even if it doesn’t always work out, at least you’re following your own path.
Self-limiting and self-doubt
Many of us struggle with low self-confidence. In fact, we could probably argue that it’s nowadays a part of life, at one stage or another. We’re afraid of failure. We punish ourselves for mistakes. We think we’re not good enough or bright enough or beautiful enough. But it’s all in our head. You are good enough. You have to find that belief, that faith, that courage buried inside and see how much your outlook changes.
Trying to fit in
Finding someone to talk about is an ancient pastime; we often gossip to fit in, to connect with a group of people and exclude someone else. On the flip side, we’re afraid to be that person who is excluded. We compare ourselves to others, always trying to erase the things that make us different. We focus on what’s ‘wrong’ with ourselves and what we don’t have. Trying to fit in breeds self-doubt and self-loathing, which leads to negativity. Instead try embracing and loving yourself and doing the same for others.
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With a touch of faith, anything becomes possible. Seems too simple to be true. But believing in ourselves, believing in the good of others, believing that things will work out, will do wondrous things to our lives. Faith sparks positivity, determination, problem-solving, which in turn invites happiness and success into our lives. Faith is in endless supply inside us. If you believe you can do anything, you will.
The world needs you to pursue your dreams, to follow your heart, to trust your instincts. The world needs you to stop procrastinating, to start making plans, to try and try again. The world needs you to use your voice, to stand up for what you believe in, to inspire others. The world needs you to love, to forgive, to move on, to hold on. The world needs you to care about something and do something about it. The world needs you, in order to keep turning. If dreams go, life is a barren field frozen in snow.
Many of us lack confidence in our own ideas. We’re afraid to raise our hand or put anything on the table, because we’re scared of looking stupid. But the truth is, our world is just a puzzle of ideas. Our systems, functions, processes are all ideas. And the only way they become our reality is when people are brave enough to share them. Sure, some ideas need refining and tuning. But an idea is an idea. They’re all cloaked in impossibility and impracticality. Strip away those fears. If others can do it, so can you. The value of an idea lies in the using of it.
Things will get better. Sometimes we feel swallowed up in darkness. Sometimes we feel constrained by heaviness. Sometimes we feel nothing at all. Sometimes it passes and sometimes it lingers. But it will get better, if we believe it will get better. If we wallow in our sadness or anxiety or fear, it will take over our life. But if we have even a little faith that life can be different, that life can be better, we open ourselves up to it. And life will get better.
Our decision to believe we can or believe we can’t sets us on significantly altered paths. A lot of the time, we believe we can’t, often because of our past, our cultures, and those around us. But we have to remember that these shouldn’t define what we can accomplish. We’re constantly gaining experience, getting smarter, and evolving. Our culture just portrays things as they are and have been, not necessarily how things should be. And we are all too different to each other to even compare between us. Just because someone else cannot achieve something, doesn’t mean we can’t. If you can conceive something and you can believe in it, then you can achieve it. Don’t let anything or anyone stop you.
Sometimes we’ve got to be crazy. Sometimes we’ve got to push the accelerator and sometimes we’ve got to put our foot down. Sometimes we’ve got to walk blindly and sometimes we’ve got to run wildly. Sometimes we’ve got to break the ceiling and sometimes we’ve got to plunge into muddy waters. We’ve got to be crazy enough to believe in ourselves. And we can’t let anything stop us. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do.
Expression is a powerful tool that we all possess and we shouldn’t be afraid to use it. Our expression defines who we are. We should feel comfortable expressing our sadness or anxiety as well as our achievements and happiness. We should be brave enough to express what we believe in and stand by it. We should never forget to express our gratitude and happiness for others. Expression shouldn’t be a weapon muddled with hatred or jealousy. We shouldn’t be using our words to bring others down or place people in a negative light. We shouldn’t be expressing ourselves in a way that invalidates or manipulates others. Our expression illustrates who we are. So find expression in your toolkit and use it with good intentions. We’re trying to fix the world, not break it.
There are times when we feel like we’re drowning. We’re trying to tread water but our body feels heavy and we’re on the verge of letting the waves wash over us. Sometimes we’re giving into those voices inside our heads and other times we’re giving into the voices of others, telling us we’re not good enough. But we need to hold onto whatever has got us this far, whether it’s passion, love, confidence, belief, courage. We need to tune out those voices and play our fight song. Because you are good enough. You are strong. You can do this. You still have it in you. Prove those voices wrong.