Sometimes the most important person to congratulate you, to celebrate you, to thank you is yourself. Sometimes we’ll be the only person who will. And that isn’t because our achievement isn’t worth recognising – it’s just how the world works sometimes. So give yourself a high five. Give yourself a pat on the back. Treat yourself and thank yourself. You’ve done something amazing, however small, and you deserve to acknowledge it. Those small achievements will all sit in our back pocket, and serve as encouragement for our next feat.
Don’t forget where you came from, where you’ve been, and what you have. Our roots don’t define who we are, but even the darkest paths have the brightest endings. And we have lots to celebrate, lots to be grateful for, and lots to embrace that’s worth remembering. Where we go will be even sweeter if we remember where we’ve been and appreciate where we are. Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have.
Stay true to yourself. Live how you want to, love who you want to, be who you want to. Extend the same right to others to be true to themselves. We don’t all agree and we’re not all the same, but that’s not something to be afraid of or something we should try to control. It’s something we should embrace, nurture and celebrate. Being different isn’t a curse, it’s a gift. We all emit our own light from our own source. We can all shine together – there’s no need to put someone else out. The more of us who shine, the brighter the world is.
The world teaches us to always focus on our weaknesses, our cracks, our flaws. But we need to stop ignoring and hiding what we’re good at. We need to play to our strengths to play the game. And we all have strengths, whether in our personality, our intelligence, our skills, our outlook, and so on. We just need to look. We should start using them, showing them and celebrating them. We should turn our flaws into strengths by embracing them. Focus on your strengths, teach yourself to love yourself.
We might sometimes find ourselves alone. But that doesn’t mean we have to be lonely. Sometimes we have to be our own biggest cheerleader:
- Celebrate your victories – we don’t always give ourselves enough credit when it comes to our achievements, sometimes because we don’t think they’re good enough and other times because we’re too busy thinking about the next big thing. But don’t get into the habit of letting success pass you by. Any victory is one to be celebrated. Praise yourself.
- Cut yourself some slack – we cannot always be our best, let alone always be perfect. Sometimes we’re going to trip up and make a mess. But it’s all a part of life. What matters the most is what we do afterwards. We shouldn’t waste our time beating ourselves up, demotivating ourselves or crushing our self-confidence. Instead, take responsibility, learn a lesson and move on.
- Stop comparing yourself to others and love who you are – we all find it hard to be comfortable with who we are, where we are, and what we have. We look at others and envision a better life if we were more like them. But the truth is, everyone has insecurities and problems. We all have different stories. Focus on your own and you’ll go much further – if you don’t, it will go on without you.
Kindness is natural to many of us. But sometimes we forget that we also have perfectly natural feelings that might not quite align with kindness and love. So here are a few ideas about how we can continue to be more compassionate and conscious of our levels of kindness:
- Encourage other people’s dreams and pursuits, instead of casting doubts or negativity over their ambitions. We can offer constructive advice, but we can never define another’s capabilities and drive.
- Celebrate other people’s successes, instead of allowing jealousy to cloud the occasion. Most of the time, people work hard to achieve their goals, and we shouldn’t deny them of the glory.
- Comfort other people in times of turmoil or grief, instead of spouting the ‘I told you so’s. People are often vulnerable during these times, and they want to be reminded that everything will be ok in the end.
- Inspire other people to be the best they can be, instead of trying to influence or mould them into our idea of what is best for them. We all have our own paths we want to take and people we want to be, so let’s open the world to everyone instead of close it off.
How do you like to show your compassion and spread kindness?
In the pursuit of our goals, there’s two broad stages: moving forward and hitting roadblocks, and our focus tends to tip to the latter rather than the former. Of course, it’s important to identify our mistakes and remain flexible to unexpected obstacles, but we need to be careful that we don’t get caught up in a negative cycle of anticipating the worst and becoming our own enemy. We need to also celebrate our accomplishments, including the milestones and not only the finish line. We need to be proud of how far we’ve come, instead of looking at how far we have to go and how far we might fall. Be proud of every victory, no matter how small. Don’t wait and miss out on the celebration.