That moment when we are falling can be the most terrifying. We cannot tell how far we’ll fall, how hard the hit will be or how devastating the aftermath will be. Rarely do we ever picture ourselves catching a second wind. But we can. Falling isn’t a problem if we don’t let the fall be the end. We all make mistakes but we can all recover from them. We can bounce back and catch our second wind. We might not land in the same place as before; it will be an even better destination. Believe you can and it will.
Look again. Our first glance is always clouded. With preconceptions and misconceptions, with doubt and fear, with insecurity and defeat. But if we look again, we might catch a new perspective, a new possibility, a new answer. We tend to rule ourselves out before we even give ourselves chance. Have a little faith in yourself. And have another look. You can do it.
Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire. Success cannot sustain itself on luck or circumstance or chance. Success is planted, nurtured and blossomed by each of us. We need to have a firm faith in our vision. We need to have a fierce determination. We need to have enough courage to take uncertain risks. We need to change our perspectives, the ways we think, the energies we emit. Sometimes we have to be willing to lose in order to win. And the best part? It comes down to us. Let’s not make excuses, let’s make things happen.
The idea of beginning again or trying again is daunting, overwhelming and disheartening. We’re creatures who find comfort in sticking to the way things are. It’s what we know. But the truth is that not everything we know works to give us our best chance at life. And when things aren’t working, we have to find a way to change them in order to give ourselves that best chance. Sometimes our relationships with other people are restricting or our relationship with ourselves is unhealthy. Sometimes our environment weighs us down or our day to day life doesn’t inspire us. Sometimes what we desperately hope will work won’t. And this is when we should tell ourselves that it’s ok to turn over a new leaf, whether it’s to plunge into the unknown or take a little dip. Because we all deserve our best chance at life. And we’re the ones who bestow that gift to ourselves. Don’t hide it away.
The now is something we are told we should pay attention to, but since it’s so blindingly obvious, we just ignore it. But the present works in our favour. The present is a blessing. So here are three reasons why the present is awesome and why we need to re-route our attention:
- Taking one step at a time – The future can be daunting. Goals can be intimidating. Processes take time, and that can be terrifying. So let’s just focus on this moment now. Let’s focus on this step, this stage, this hurdle, this challenge, and worry about the others later. Life’s so much more digestible, satisfying and relaxing this way.
- Looking at where we are instead of where we’re going – It’s easy to get caught up in planning and projecting and doubting and working. It’s so exhausting that we leave no time to enjoy or appreciate what is right in front of us. Overtime, we develop a twisted mindset where nothing is sufficient and we become dependent on the hypothetical. Let’s take a look around us. We might be pleasantly surprised by what we find.
- Only now is guaranteed – We hear it all the time, but does it really sink in? We don’t know what tomorrow holds. There might be unexpected situations or undesirable circumstances. We shouldn’t take our life for granted. Let’s not leave words unsaid or work unfinished or problems unsolved. Let’s not leave our dreams for tomorrow or put off our passions for another day. What is it that we’re waiting for? Because our chance may never come again. This moment is the only moment for living.
We all have those moments when we are not too sure about a person. Perhaps it’s a first impression, perhaps it’s a lasting impression. When we cannot quite understand someone, when we cannot quite place a person, we often find it hard to let go of the uncertainty; we begin to obsess over analysing people’s behaviour and we become conscious of our own behaviour. And the danger this leads to is beginning to view both others and ourselves in a negative light of doubt, broken confidence and, most significantly, false judgement, without even fully understanding that person. Everybody acts and lives differently. Everybody’s past shapes the way they are. Everybody goes through times that other people could not possibly guess through a quick conversation in an office or a standard interaction at school. That doesn’t make them a bad person. Give people the benefit of your doubt. Give people a chance to prove themselves for whoever they are. Do not dwell on the negative possibilities. Do not dream up negative realities. It isn’t healthy for you or other people. Live on the happy side of life, especially in those moments where nothing is stopping you.