Don’t give forgiveness because it’s the right thing to do. Rather because it’s the most liberating thing to do. When you forgive someone or yourself, you wash your body of grudges, judgement and hate. Forgive just as much for yourself as for others. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Give people a second chance. Even when that person is you. Nobody is perfect. And so that isn’t something we shouldn’t hold against each other or ourselves. Practice forgiveness and moving on.
It’s ok to live life out of sequence. It’s ok to live life back to front. It’s ok to live life off beat. There are no rules, no expectations, no destinies, except the ones we impose on ourselves. Live the life you want to live, regardless of the labels others try to place on you. To live life to the fullest, we sometimes have to take a leap of faith or take a second chance. And that might seem strange to others, but it doesn’t matter, as long as it feels right to you. Don’t let the misleading idea of ‘normality’ stop you from being who you want to be and doing what you love. It’s ok to live a life others don’t understand.
The only place where we are truly confined is in our own mind. And because of this, we often don’t realise that in our mind lies the key to our visions of success, happiness, and love. To find everything we want, we have to be open to it. We have to free our mind. We have to believe in the possibility. We have to let go of insecurities. We have to exceed expectations. We have to be willing to take chances. We have to stop building those walls that limit, restrict, and block us. Tear the existing ones down. You can handle a lot more than you give yourself credit for.
Sometimes life is a struggle between knowing when to push on and when to give up. It’s hard to know when it’s the last straw, the last chance or the last attempt. Giving up is perceived as weak, lazy and cowardly. But giving up can also be brave and essential to our happiness. To give up on a bad career, on a relationship that’s going nowhere, or on a path that’s leading us in the wrong direction is admirable. To give up can bring relief, peace and freedom. It can give us back our time, our focus, and our energy. Of course, there are times when we shouldn’t give up. And sometimes we just have to follow our instincts to know what to do. But ultimately, we shouldn’t give up on our own wellbeing. Sometimes that requires some holding on and some letting go. Whichever it is, let it lead you forward.
What do you take in life? To me, what we take defines our being and our happiness and success in life. We should take chances and take as many opportunities as we physically and mentally can. We should not take advantage or take for granted the life we have been blessed with. We should take advice and take the help we need, even if we do so begrudgingly or awkwardly. We should not take life too seriously, but also not take from other people that which hasn’t been given to us. Most importantly, we should remember to take our time and take a breath, because life is most of all a journey, rather than a destination, and we’re just picking up pieces on the way.