Three ways to boost your confidence

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  1. Be willing to fail – easier said than done, but a lack of confidence often translates into a fear of failing and looking bad. But if we at least try to overcome our fears, we deny them control over our self-perception. Start small and step a bit out of your comfort zone. It doesn’t matter if you slip or trip or fall. It matters that you get up again.
  2. Let go of your mistakes – letting your mistakes hover over you like a dark cloud guarantees it will rain. Don’t be so hung up on the consequences of the mistake but rather the lesson. Forgive yourself and move on. If you’re constantly reminding yourself about that time you messed up, chances are you’ll mess up again. And that’s not going to help your confidence much.
  3. Be yourself and please yourself – it may not feel like it, but it takes a considerable amount of effort to be someone else. And because we know that we won’t ever be able to pull it off, we lose confidence. Don’t negate yourself and impersonate someone else. Allow yourself to be yourself and work on yourself. It will be much more comfortable and liberating.

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Stretch Yourself

Seth Godin quote

We’ll never know unless we try. Our minds have a habit of deceiving us into believing everything it conjures up. And usually, it’s not all fairy tales and happy endings; in fact, we insist that such things don’t exist and that instead we’re destined to fail or be miserable. But sometimes we’ve just got to ignore that nagging voice and step out in spite of it. Now let’s not be extreme – whilst wading out of our comfort zone, we don’t want to find ourselves in the panic zone. Because that’s where the fear, misery and failure wait to lure us into reclusion and darkness. No, we have to be smart and stretch ourselves just a little beyond our comfort every time. That’s where magic lies. That’s where we learn, grow and live. We’ll never know unless we try. Stretch yourself.

Thought of the Day: Your Comfort Zone

Sometimes we have those moments when we have to decide whether to stick to what we know or whether to step into new territory. I’m not really sure whether I can define when is a good time and when is a bad time to break out of your comfort zone. Perhaps it should be in terms of safety, when we take calculated risks and still feel an element of security, or maybe it should be defined by how much our boundaries are in our control if we do decide to tread new water. But stepping out of our comfort zones, at least in small steps, has so many possibilities for our growth: we can conquer our fears and we can test our confidence. If we resolve to expand the limits of our comfort zone, perhaps we will find ourselves saying ‘yes’ to more, yes to opportunities and yes to possibilities that we would have said no to and regretted later. Sometimes the moment when we need to define our limits comes upon us suddenly and it can feel overwhelming; we just need to be aware of our comfort and the risks and reassess rather than get rid of all limits, even if they change or get less conservative than before. Don’t close yourself off from something you want just out of fear. And if you make mistakes along the way and learn from them, that counts for just as much.