It may seem strong and heroic to navigate storms alone. But it’s ok to ask for help, to seek comfort, and to find strength in others. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. Don’t be afraid of looking defeated. Because those who aren’t are the ones who are the most strong and successful in the end. They lean on others, they take the hand offered to them, and they grow higher because of it.
Instinctively, we want to run from anything that may cause us to feel anxiety, fear, vulnerability, or discomfort. And of course, in many cases, that’s sensible. But sometimes stepping out of our line of comfort and going after what we want will invite those emotions we try to avoid. But don’t let that stop you. Otherwise we’ll just be avoiding living, shying away from progress and playing it safe. And we’ll realise, perhaps too late, that playing it safe isn’t playing at all. It’s boring and unsatisfying and limiting. Live a little, don’t just exist and let life pass by.
People change. Time ticks on and life goes on, so people change. Sometimes they’re tested to new extremes. Sometimes old wounds are ripped open. And we all respond differently. People break, people fight, people forget, people grow. And we cannot expect others to respond the same way we would. We cannot tell others how to feel. Sometimes all we can do is listen and comfort. Other times all we can do is accept and move on. People change. We change. Try to make the best of it.
We can all help the world be a better place. By extending a hand. By standing up for the victim. By empowering the voiceless. By comforting the lonely. By listening to the other side of the argument. By encouraging the next generation. By caring for the earth. By sharing an idea. By radiating positivity. And so on. It doesn’t all come to money or time or access. We can make the world a better place through our perspective, our energy and a string of good deeds. We all have a part to play. And it can make all the difference. Which one is yours?
Kindness is natural to many of us. But sometimes we forget that we also have perfectly natural feelings that might not quite align with kindness and love. So here are a few ideas about how we can continue to be more compassionate and conscious of our levels of kindness:
- Encourage other people’s dreams and pursuits, instead of casting doubts or negativity over their ambitions. We can offer constructive advice, but we can never define another’s capabilities and drive.
- Celebrate other people’s successes, instead of allowing jealousy to cloud the occasion. Most of the time, people work hard to achieve their goals, and we shouldn’t deny them of the glory.
- Comfort other people in times of turmoil or grief, instead of spouting the ‘I told you so’s. People are often vulnerable during these times, and they want to be reminded that everything will be ok in the end.
- Inspire other people to be the best they can be, instead of trying to influence or mould them into our idea of what is best for them. We all have our own paths we want to take and people we want to be, so let’s open the world to everyone instead of close it off.
How do you like to show your compassion and spread kindness?
Be brave. If a part of our life doesn’t make us happy, we should make every effort to change it. Sometimes it means leaving behind the security and comfort of the familiar. Sometimes it means going against what is thought or expected of us. Sometimes it means taking a few steps back in order to propel forward. Be brave enough to admit what doesn’t make you happy and do something about it, even if you start out small. Because what other point is there to life other than to be happy?
We might not be able to understand much about what Minions are saying, but what they show us speaks louder than words. I recently went to see Minions in the cinema, and I picked out three lessons we can learn from them:
- Always look out for each other – Whether we’re just offering a bit of comfort, courage or company, or whether we’re valiantly saving someone from getting blown to pieces, we should always take care of each other. It could make all the difference to that person, whether we realise or not.
- Be brave – It’s easy to get comfortable where we are because that’s what we know and that’s where we know we’ll be safe. But that doesn’t mean we’ll always be fulfilled and happy in that safe place. Don’t be afraid of stepping into the unknown and taking opportunities to experience more of life.
- Never give up – Life won’t hand us everything we want. But that doesn’t mean we can’t ever have it. Even if things feel like they’re not working out, sometimes we just need to take our time. We’ll get there in the end if we stay persistent. And it will be worth it.
Have you seen Minions? What would you add to the list?
We cannot travel through life alone. We naturally pick up people along the way. Because life is tough, and we all need love, support, and comfort. But sometimes we’ve got to look at our passengers and think who will give us that support. If our ride was to run out of gas, who would just be catching a ride and who would help us push? It isn’t always clear cut. But don’t be afraid to deserve better when it comes to the people you surround ourselves with. Those who are there at your lowest moments are the ones who deserve to be there at your best moments. Don’t lose sight of your true friends. And don’t lose sight of yourself.
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself. When we are ourselves, we are at our most comfortable. And at our most free. When we are ourselves, we are at our most passionate about life and generous towards life. It’s when we are our most beautiful. And our most happy. Don’t be afraid to unleash it. Why would we live any other way?