The grass is always greener on the other side. But if you get to the other side, that doesn’t mean your grass will be greener. Because it’s an illusion. People’s lives may seem better to us, but that’s because we’re on the outside looking in. Everyone has problems or weaknesses or hardships, just like we do. We need to focus on our own life and work on our own life, instead of comparing it to others. If we’re too busy look at next door’s grass, then ours is only going to suffer. Appreciate what is right at your feet. If everyone looks after their grass, think what a beautiful world it will be.
Learn from the people smarter than you, instead of comparing yourself to them. Practice with the people stronger than you, instead of competing against them. Work with the people who inspire you, instead of trying to copy them. Keep your eyes open, keep your mind sharp, but keep your heart true. Nobody can be a better you than you.
There’s so much we can get stuck into in life. But sometimes there are things that end up tying us down. Here’s a few things we shouldn’t get so caught up in:
- In some respect, details can dampen the spirit of life. When we plan out our life in too minute detail, we set expectations of ourselves and the future. But life is unexpected, and so details can not only leave us disappointed but also rigid and restricted. We lose our sense of spontaneity and possibility.
- Gossip may seem perfectly normal, and perhaps even harmless, but it is rooted in negativity, hate and competition. And it doesn’t just have consequences for those we talk about, but ourselves too. When we gossip, we judge other people, we bring other people down, and we might even end up twisting stories that are passed on. We lose our sense of kindness and positivity.
- People are always trying to place definitions on everyone and everything associated with everyone. But let’s remember that we are in control of who we are and who we want to be. And we are so much more than just one thing or one label. Don’t be afraid for stand for something, or more than one thing, but most of all don’t worry about what anyone thinks. Otherwise we’ll lose our sense of self.
Live simply. Find peace and happiness in the smallest of actions. Live in harmony. Find strength and love from others and by loving others.
It seems to be natural for us to always compare ourselves to others. Our happiness in times of our own success seems to be determined by the success and failure of other people. One minute we are proud of ourselves; the next we feel disillusioned and deflated because we caught a glimpse of somebody else’s success, and our’s doesn’t seem as good in comparison. Why is this? Why do we measure our own worth against somebody else, somebody with a completely different brain and set of skills and set of accomplishments and set of life choices? And then to top it all of, the idea of what someone deserves comes into play. We worked harder and we sacrificed more time and leisure, and that person still came out on top. But the question to ask is, did we try to achieve success for other people and what they think or did we do it for ourselves and for what we think? Maybe taking that perspective will help us move past the comparing, the jealousy, the competition. Maybe if we strip away the other people and focus on our own goals and standards, we will learn to congratulate ourselves and be happy for ourselves and for others in times of success.
Over the past couple centuries, women have fought for a better future for current and new female generations. Nowadays, it can be easy to take the changes these phenomenal women made for granted, and actually find ourselves regressing from the paths they have opened up for us.
One of the most significant developments in women’s history was obtaining the right to vote. And this didn’t come instantly; in the UK, the women’s suffragette movement began in late 19th century, and it wasn’t until the First World War (1914-18) that they made legislative progress. Along the way, suffragettes created organisations, went on hunger strikes, pursued radical lobbying and suffered subsequent imprisonment. But women’s equality was not limited to this. Other advancements include campaigning for women to be able to go to university, able to obtain divorce and keep the children, and for equal employment opportunities and benefits. Equality to men in the latter is something that women are still fighting for and legal acts instigating it are only recent. In the UK, the number of women in chief-executive and managing director positions was only 14.5% in 2012, but saw a rise of 25% from 2011 (according to the Telegraph). In America, women hold only 4.2% of CEO positions in the Fortune 500. Whether properly proved or not, its frequently suggested that women and young females rival male intelligibility in all ages. We, as a collective body, have so much potential to achieve, for both ourselves and other women.
Yet it has somehow become intrinsic in our nature that we are jealous and competitive towards other women. This can be from attractiveness to attention to employment or schoolwork. Insecure females make themselves feel better by criticising other women. Females who want something another woman has ends up criticising them out of jealousy.
I’m not saying that all competition is bad; we should expect more from ourselves and challenge ourselves and not let people walk all over us. But at the same time we should embrace and praise other women’s achievements, even if we wish we could be in their position. Instead we should be happy for them and aspire to be like those women who have what we want. We shouldn’t develop a bad reputation for women with petty jealousy and criticism. By learning to praise other women, we can keep the journey for the power of women progressing that many women have previously paved for us, and continue to pave it for future generations.