Page 4: Rules of Commitment

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Remember those resolutions you made in the New Year? Your last birthday? Beginning of the month? Last Monday?

It can be really difficult to stay committed, stay motivated and stay on track to achieving your goals and building the life you envision for yourself.

Do you ever ask yourself why you failed? I recently did and noticed that I had unrealistic ideas about goals, habits and commitment.

So I’ve made some new rules of commitment to help me go further on my journey towards success, and I wanted to share them with you in hopes they might help you too.

Commitment one: Do your best

This rule erases so many common pitfalls, namely striving for perfection and comparing ourselves to others. When we do not (and cannot) meet expectations we have for ourselves, we quickly lose enthusiasm and give up. Instead of perfection and unrealistic expectations, we should strive to do our best. And that might be different each day. As long as you’re doing something towards your goal, it doesn’t matter whether it’s as good as what you did yesterday or as good as someone else might do. Just do your best and keep at it.

Commitment two: Get back up when you fail

When it comes to my goals and habits, I can often have an ‘all or nothing’ attitude. For example, at the moment, I am trying to cut out all sweet treats, because that’s how it works best for me. But inevitably, I sometimes cave. In normal circumstances, I would have just given up if I failed. But instead, I’m just trying to start over whenever I fail, so I can keep going towards achieving my goals. Don’t beat yourself up when you fail. Don’t give up when you fail. Every day is a brand new day to be better and do your best.

Commitment three: Have big dreams, realistic journeys

Everyone should have big dreams. But it won’t happen overnight, and if you always have your eyes to the sky, you’re bound to trip up on the ground. The best way to make progress towards your dreams is to break them down into small, realistic steps you can take and accomplish. That way, you’re also motivating yourself by achieving quicker wins that are helping you get to that bigger dream.

Commitment four: Stick to the decision

I have a bad habit of scheduling in the time to do something, making the decision, and then bailing when it comes to actually doing it. So when I made decisions, my brain was already expecting me to not follow through. Now, I’m trying to make a conscious effort to stick to my decisions, to retrain my brain and actually achieve the things I set out to do. I encourage you to do the same.

Do you have any rules of commitment? Tips on how to stay motivated? Share them in the comments!

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Who we listen to

  
We need to be mindful of who we listen to. Because they affect our opinions, our choices, our lives. Sometimes we don’t even realise what we’re absorbing and sometimes there are so many voices, we don’t know where to start. But above all, listen to your own voice, your own thoughts, your own desires. You’re the one who has to live your life. You need to enjoy it. And sometimes that will mean drowning out the noise of those close to you. Make decisions on your own terms. It might not be easy, but it will be worth it.

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Thought of the Day: No regrets

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Regret can be bitter, distressing, and fierce. It gnaws at our pleasure, our time, and our sense of self. But we are always making decisions and taking paths. To regret one of those choices is to assume that life would be better if we had made a different one. But really, that’s just holding onto a possibility to avoid facing reality. Our reality isn’t something we should regret, no matter what circumstances we’re in. We wouldn’t be who we are without all the moments that have led up to now. And these are the moments that turn tragedies into joy and fortune. Our reality now doesn’t need to be our reality tomorrow. We are always capable of learning and changing. If we care enough to regret, then we should care enough to act. Life isn’t over because we’ve made a mistake. It’s just another beginning.

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There’s more than one road

Life is what you make of it

When we’re faced with a decision, one of the questions pressing in our minds is whether we’re going to make the right choice. A lot of the time, it’s not obvious. But let’s not let that stop us. There are many routes to an abundant, prosperous and happy life – because life is what we make of it. If we end up going one way or another, we will be happy and successful. Life is open to us and holds so many beautiful possibilities that we can capture. We shouldn’t get caught up in the what ifs. And if we happen to make a bad choice, we can still move forward. Don’t let anything hold you back. Life is an open plan waiting for you to embark on.

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Three Times to Say Yes and Three Times to Say No

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Life is all about the choices we make, the yeses and the nos. Sometimes they are spontaneous and other times they are calculated. Here are a few of my thoughts about when to say ‘yes’ and when to say ‘no’:

  • Say Yes to new opportunities, even the ones that scare us, the ones that sneak upon us, and the ones that ask for risk. Always do that which makes us happy and that which nurtures us. We will never travel the same road twice.
  • But say No to situations that make us uncomfortable, vulnerable, unhappy or overstep our boundaries as well as situations that we put ourselves in for the sake of fitting in, for pleasing somebody else or for what we feel we should be doing.
  • Say Yes to loving others and helping people as much as possible, whether they be strangers or the people we love on a daily basis, especially those who are worthy of our time and love. Give people chances and see the good in others.
  • But say No to the people who take advantage of our kindness, who always ask but never give back and who never appreciate us. Stay civil and be kind, but do not waste your effort on them; channel it to somebody else.
  • Say Yes to the advice you give to others: that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to, that you are smart and talented enough, that you are beautiful just the way you are, and that the hurt and pain will not last forever. And everything in between.
  • But say No to the unproductive advice others give you, to the hateful criticism that people impose on us, and the restrictions others try to place on us. We are all in control of our own lives and nobody else’s, so let’s not relinquish it.

When do you say yes and no and when would you like to say yes and no? Leave in the comments below!