We are not trainwrecks. We are not washouts. We are not tragedies. We are not wastes of spaces. And even if we can’t convince ourselves otherwise, so what? We’re all these at some point in our lives. We’re only human. We’re only capable of so much. And sometimes things don’t work out. We’re not defined by our mistakes. We are not defined by our baggage. We are not defined by other people’s perceptions. So stop letting yourself be defined by them. Live freely. Live boldly. Live deeply.
There’s so much we can get stuck into in life. But sometimes there are things that end up tying us down. Here’s a few things we shouldn’t get so caught up in:
- In some respect, details can dampen the spirit of life. When we plan out our life in too minute detail, we set expectations of ourselves and the future. But life is unexpected, and so details can not only leave us disappointed but also rigid and restricted. We lose our sense of spontaneity and possibility.
- Gossip may seem perfectly normal, and perhaps even harmless, but it is rooted in negativity, hate and competition. And it doesn’t just have consequences for those we talk about, but ourselves too. When we gossip, we judge other people, we bring other people down, and we might even end up twisting stories that are passed on. We lose our sense of kindness and positivity.
- People are always trying to place definitions on everyone and everything associated with everyone. But let’s remember that we are in control of who we are and who we want to be. And we are so much more than just one thing or one label. Don’t be afraid for stand for something, or more than one thing, but most of all don’t worry about what anyone thinks. Otherwise we’ll lose our sense of self.