It’s said that our language was born out of our need to gossip. But why have we made it so normal? We tear people down instead of lifting them up. We judge people instead of accepting them. People become afraid to be themselves, become obsessed with reaching perfection, become ruthless towards anyone who poses a threat to their fragile sense of security. And sadly, the cycle continues. Let’s use our words kindly. Let’s give people a hand. Let’s accept everyone for who they are. Let’s celebrate our differences. Imagine what we could do by spreading love instead of hate. How much better the world would be – even yours.
It’s hard for us to tell ourselves that we’re beautiful and intelligent and loved. Maybe that’s because we haven’t been loved in the past or maybe that’s because we have been taught not to love ourselves. But we are all beautiful and intelligent and loved, even if we can’t see it. Our differences and our weaknesses only enhance that beauty, intelligence and love. Let’s stop doubting our worth, our capability or our strength. It’s all there, even if we don’t see it.
Sometimes we embrace our differences and other times we negate them, both to our advantage and disadvantage in various ways. But we cannot deny their existence. So why do we invalidate and why do we allow others to invalidate our own differences? We all have different capabilities and talents that we should express and share. Just because something didn’t work for someone else, doesn’t mean it cannot work for us. Just because somebody thinks that we are not good enough, doesn’t mean that we’re not. To be a leader, a hero, an innovator, a developer, a thinker, or whatever we want to be, we have to be different. We’re all rare, anomalous, and unparalleled. So don’t hide away what defines you. Believe in your differences. Our differences make us irreplaceable, and it would be a shame to extinguish that flame.
There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
W. Clement Stone
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Although our differences by definition are said to separate us, they in fact bring us together in a number of ways. Here are a few reasons why our differences are awesome:
- What separates us helps us grow – from our differences to other people, there is an wealth of learning material to be gained from how other people live, interact and react, by observing people’s strengths and mistakes when faced with certain situations. Another’s achievements and assets raise our expectations of ourselves and our desire to be better.
- What separates us broadens our perspectives – to make something more successful, to power progress, to establish peace and love in the world, we need different perspectives. Sometimes our viewpoint is too blind on its own, but coupled with others, it is powerful. And so, what separates us also binds us into a common vision.
- What separates us gives us abundance – life would be monotonous and boring if we were all the same. But when we all excel in different ways and travel different walks of life, life is full of new ideas that we will all benefit from, whether we just appreciate them, use them, or want to model them. No path will ever be the same, but it has been created by all those who stood at a different point, at a different time, and in a different way.
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It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognise, accept, and celebrate those differences. – Audre Lorde
We all have those parts of ourselves that we are ashamed of and insecure about, that we try to hide away or change about ourselves, whether physical or emotional. This anxiety and self-loathing grows from our tendency to want to be synonymous with others and our need to belong and be accepted. Why is this? Why can’t we see that our differences do not divide us but make us stronger? We all have different goals, different purposes, different backgrounds that shape who we are. We should not need to sculpt ourselves to fit the mould.
We all have those redeeming parts of ourselves; those that we despise may be the parts that someone else craves. We all have parts of ourselves that others respect and admire. Those parts should not be valued any higher than those parts we might be scared to show, those parts we hide away, or those parts we want to change. Face and embrace every part of yourself. Face and unfold every part of yourself. Face and improve every part of yourself. Whatever we are ashamed of or insecure about can be changed not through revising but learning and cultivating, not through modifying but accepting and owning it. All our differences and imperfections are beautiful.