As much as we’re affected, moulded, and influenced by those around us, we also have the same effect on others. So we all have a responsibility to do so positively and unconditionally. The smallest of words or actions can boost someone’s self-love or pick up someone’s mood. We can encourage someone to pursue their aspiration or inspire someone to aim higher. We can empower others to take control of their lives by relinquishing ours over them. Be an example. Be a catalyst. And bring out the best in others. They might be the leader, innovator, and partner of tomorrow.
A lot hinges on our relationships and interactions with people around us: our energy, motivation, direction, choices, perspectives. That’s why it’s important we build solid, positive, fruitful and invigorating relationships around us. And cut our ties to those who take away from our life:
- The overlookers – we shouldn’t ever be made to feel worthless by those close to us. We shouldn’t ever be consistently ignored, excluded and belittled. We shouldn’t be constantly taken for granted. Although our self-worth should foremost come from within ourselves, relationships with others should nonetheless make us feel valued and appreciated.
- The nay-sayers – those around us shouldn’t distract us from where we want to go, with doubts, negativity, or self-importance. Our loved ones should encourage and push us forward, no matter how much they do not understand or agree with our choices. No matter how much they wish they could do the same too. Those close to us should want us to thrive.
- The game-changers – people who try to mould us into someone else or who won’t accept us for who we are will eventually be suffocating. And we shouldn’t have to change our very core principles and qualities for other people. We all have flaws and we should be able to embrace them, not escape them. We should be around people who love us for who we are.
We can all help the world be a better place. By extending a hand. By standing up for the victim. By empowering the voiceless. By comforting the lonely. By listening to the other side of the argument. By encouraging the next generation. By caring for the earth. By sharing an idea. By radiating positivity. And so on. It doesn’t all come to money or time or access. We can make the world a better place through our perspective, our energy and a string of good deeds. We all have a part to play. And it can make all the difference. Which one is yours?
Kindness is natural to many of us. But sometimes we forget that we also have perfectly natural feelings that might not quite align with kindness and love. So here are a few ideas about how we can continue to be more compassionate and conscious of our levels of kindness:
- Encourage other people’s dreams and pursuits, instead of casting doubts or negativity over their ambitions. We can offer constructive advice, but we can never define another’s capabilities and drive.
- Celebrate other people’s successes, instead of allowing jealousy to cloud the occasion. Most of the time, people work hard to achieve their goals, and we shouldn’t deny them of the glory.
- Comfort other people in times of turmoil or grief, instead of spouting the ‘I told you so’s. People are often vulnerable during these times, and they want to be reminded that everything will be ok in the end.
- Inspire other people to be the best they can be, instead of trying to influence or mould them into our idea of what is best for them. We all have our own paths we want to take and people we want to be, so let’s open the world to everyone instead of close it off.
How do you like to show your compassion and spread kindness?