Nothing’s too crazy. Nothing’s too unrealistic. Nothing’s too absurd. Not if you don’t think so. Those limits, those boundaries, those obstacles, those fears, those excuses, those expectations. They’re all in your head. If we never try the impossible, we never have a chance to show it’s possibility. We are all human. We are all dreamers. And we are all creators. Believe in your own ideas and your own imagination. Reality will always be created by those who seize the opportunity to build and add to it. Create your own world. You can do it as good as the next person.
On our journey, we pick up a lot of baggage. Sometimes it can get too much to carry. Sometimes we’ve just got to leave some of it behind. So here are three things that we should learn to let go of as soon as possible:
1. Perfection –
Whether we want the perfect life, the perfect partner, the perfect body or whether we project the expectation of perfection onto every piece of work we do, we are destined to be disappointed. Of course it’s beautiful to dream, to have prospects, to strive further, but we have to understand that we’re human and that life is unexpected. Perfection isn’t an option in most cases. If we keep pretending it is, we won’t ever feel satisfied with ourselves or the world. And that would be a real shame.
2. Approval –
The contradictory truth is that we are always influenced by the people around us and we want others to like us but it is virtually impossible to please everyone whilst also pleasing ourselves. It’s cliche, but we only have one life to live. If we want to do something, we should do it, regardless of anyone’s opinion. Approval should be an added bonus rather than a requirement. Better yet, instead of seeking approval, seek people who are supportive, non-judgemental and love you for who you are.
3. Excuses –
It’s so easy to put off, to procrastinate, to laze around and to make excuses about why we can’t do something or why we shouldn’t do something. But excuses won’t get us anywhere, not with our relationships and not with our goals. We need to be moving forward, how ever slowly. Act on that instinct, that inspiration, that idea. Don’t wait around, because whilst we’re sitting around, time is still flying by. And we won’t be able to catch up.
What do you think we should let go of? What are you learning to let go of? Please leave them in the comments below!
What would you give to lead a happy and successful life? Maybe we should really be asking ourselves what we should give up. I know what you’re thinking, giving up is the last thing we should be doing, but here are a few suggestions of things we need to purge from our lives in order to keep ourselves motivated and on track:
- Give up the demoralising self-talk – Doubt, insecurity and anxiety are all natural emotions, but we cannot let them pull us down. We will never be free from obstacles, but we can be rid of the ones we create for ourselves. Open up your mind and believe in yourself.
- Give up the excuses – The first step to achieving anything is starting and with that comes trying. There will never be a perfect time and we will never feel fully prepared. We can only start where ever we are and with the means we have available. Stop making excuses for yourself and grow.
- Give up the past – No matter how many mistakes we’ve made or how many heartaches we’ve gone through, our future doesn’t need to follow the same path. We cannot change the past, but we can learn from it. Stop looking behind you and start moving forward.
- Give up the people pleasing – We need to let go of other people’s expectations and wishes. We need to take away the unnecessary pressures and limitations that come with those. The only person who will live with our life choices will be ourselves, so the only expectations and wishes that matter are ours. Please yourself.
It can seem easier to make excuses for others, than to confront others and stand up for ourselves. It is easy to make excuses for other people’s behaviour, when we hold low self-esteem. It is easy to place the blame on ourselves and convince ourselves that we somehow deserve it. It is easy to make excuses for others when we are used to apologising for ourselves and adjusting ourselves other people’s moods and wills.
Of course, we should strive to see the good in others and to give people the benefit of the doubt, but it is unhealthy to persist in a relationship where we systematically find ourselves excusing other people’s ignorant, obnoxious and insulting behaviour. It leaves us with a negative outlook of not only our relationships, but of ourselves too. We cannot be afraid of having these feelings and speaking out. If those people cannot be considerate and receptive to our feelings, then we need to re-evaluate their significance in our life. If those people are incapable of change, then we need to change our environment, not our prospects and standards. We deserve better. When we make excuses for others, we are only making excuses against ourselves and a happier life.
“There is no passion to be found playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living” – Nelson Mandela