Sometimes we underestimate the fact that we can do whatever we want. We easily start confusing what we want with what other people want, until it morphs into something repressive. We want to please those we love. We want to provide for those we care about. We want approval from our peers. And that’s ok if other people aren’t our sole focus. Because people shouldn’t dictate what we can do and what we can’t do. People shouldn’t confine us with labels and rules. People shouldn’t make us feel small or inferior. They might try. But we don’t have to let them. And really, it’s whatever we want to do that will shine onto the world and make everyone else glow too.
Who doesn’t worry too much? We’re all heavily invested in our lives, whether we want to be or not. So naturally, we worry – about everything. But here are three reasons why we shouldn’t be investing time in worrying:
- Worrying serves no useful purpose – It’s a coping mechanism for anticipation, fear and the unknown. But worrying doesn’t clear ourselves of these emotions, it just validates their control over us. Worry deprives us of pleasure, ease and focus on today, because it’s consuming and exhausting. What’s the point? Stop worrying about things that haven’t happened and concentrate on both the blessings and the problems at hand.
- We always expect the worst – To cope with feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable about not knowing where we stand, we take it upon ourselves to try and fill in the gaps. But we often expect the worst of ourselves and of life’s attitude towards us. Although we shouldn’t sail through life expecting diamonds and gold, there’s no point in wasting time and energy worrying about something that never materialises in reality.
- Everything’s going to be ok – If the worst eventuality does roll around, don’t be disheartened. Every cloud has it’s silver lining. And you have the strength to find it and seize it. Save up that energy you spend on worrying for the day you’re going to need a little extra in your pocket. You’ll thank yourself later.