Happiness is different for everyone. There is no set path and there is no set reward. Don’t get sucked into other people’s versions of happiness, when it isn’t yours. Don’t let others bring down your version of happiness, when it isn’t their’s. We all make our own happiness. Do what feels best for you. A world full of happy people is a happy place to be.
Sometimes it’s better to ask for forgiveness, than to ask for permission. Sometimes it’s better to make a mistake, than to not try at all. Sometimes it’s better to put yourself first, than live by someone else’s rules. Live passionately, not cautiously.
Your worth is not your beauty. It’s not the number of inches around your waist. It’s not your intellect. It’s not the number in your bank account. It’s not your mistakes or your past. You’re more than labels and boxes and opinions. You always deserve to give yourself another chance. You always deserve to be loved and to love yourself. You always deserve to choose who you are and where you want to go. Your worth is infinite. Especially when you stay true to yourself. Your worth is on the inside.
If you were to give yourself advice, how different would it be to the advice you’d give a friend in a similar situation? We often tend to be harsher on ourselves, less forgiving and sympathetic, with higher expectations and levels of criticism. We don’t always give ourselves advice, but give ourselves lectures. But we deserve some compassion, love and understanding from ourselves. We’re not perfect. We make mistakes. And that’s ok. If we learn and grow, there’s no unwritten rule saying we should punish ourselves. We have to take care of ourselves. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
You are more than labels. You are more than pain. You are more than your mistakes. You are more than the pressure. You are not coloured in black and white. You are not a single note on a manuscript or a single page in a book. You are more than a reflection or a shadow. You are more than a number on a scale. Don’t listen to others who tell you so. Don’t let others pack you in a box they’ve created for you. Don’t be an ‘or’ because you’re an ‘and’. You are more than one thing you do or say or believe. You can be anything you want to be. You can change your mind. You can be more than you think you can be.
Why not bet on yourself? You are in control. You are capable and smart. You are determined and relentless. You have ideas and beliefs. You’ve got everything you need to start right now. You don’t need permission. You don’t need to meet any expectations. You don’t need to pass any tests. Have faith in yourself and you’ll take yourself wherever you want to go. Why bet on yourself? Because it’s too dangerous not to.
Life is a puzzle, a pile of pieces we try to match together to make sense of the bigger picture. We look for answers out in the world, from people, from books, from lessons, from the stars. But all the answers we really need are coursing through our body, our heart and our mind. Sure, they can sometimes land us in trouble or leave us with more questions. But at least they’re our answers – ultimately, no one else’s answers will make us happy or successful. We have to figure out life for ourselves. And the secret is, there’s no right way or best way to live life. You’ve just got to live it for yourself.
If we want to achieve and succeed, we should stop looking around for someone else to give us the instructions, the expectations and the answers. Sure, there are useful tips and tricks that we can learn from others; we can ask questions, seek advice, observe them. But we shouldn’t be trying to be a replica of them, because all we’ll end up becoming is a shadow. We have our own gifts to offer and talents to share. We can create our own rules, build our own set of expectations, and find our own answers to our own problems. We don’t need to follow in someone else’s path. We don’t need to compare our journey to anyone else’s. We don’t need to do what everyone else is doing.
We have a tendency to over complicate our lives. We overanalyse and misinterpret our own and other people’s feelings, opinions, words, actions, and behaviours. We obsessively compare ourselves to others and the expectations of our culture. We hang onto the past to bring ourselves down. But all it leads to is heartache and insecurity. Life can be simpler, if we let go of the chains we’re carrying around. Sometimes it’s just seeing the best in people, seeing the best in yourself, and seeing the best in the world. Sometimes it’s just living life the way that makes you happy. Simple.
There’s so much noise in our heads about who we should be, most of it being others’ expectations and norms. But we can’t live life by someone else’s rules and we shouldn’t have to fit in someone else’s box. It can be hard to sift through all the noise, but somewhere buried deep you’ll find your own voice, your own thoughts and your own feelings. Take a moment and ask yourself: When are you at your best? When are you the happiest? When do you feel most comfortable? Who are you when no one is watching? Who are you when you don’t give a damn? What do you love about yourself? What would you like to be better at? There are no right way to be. But there is a right way to be you, and that’s just to be yourself, whoever that is. Be aware of it and let it vibrate through you. There’s no other way to be.