We cannot travel through life alone. But we need to make sure we choose to be around people who will guide us when we’ve lost our way, give us courage when we’re scared to move forward, and give us strength when we grow tired. We shouldn’t surround ourselves with people who constantly weigh us down or trip us up, no matter what excuses we make for them. You deserve to be surrounded by love. Don’t settle for something less.
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Sometimes we think we have to do it all on our own in order to do well. But there’s no shame in having someone to catch you when you fall, to offer you words of wisdom, or to give you a hand. There is a difference between support and reliance. To rely on someone is to depend on them. And there may be times when we need that. But we can still be independent and self-made with support. We don’t have to do it all alone to be strong and successful. The more people we have rooting for us, the higher we’ll go.
We need to be mindful of who we listen to. Because they affect our opinions, our choices, our lives. Sometimes we don’t even realise what we’re absorbing and sometimes there are so many voices, we don’t know where to start. But above all, listen to your own voice, your own thoughts, your own desires. You’re the one who has to live your life. You need to enjoy it. And sometimes that will mean drowning out the noise of those close to you. Make decisions on your own terms. It might not be easy, but it will be worth it.
You can be anyone and still be happy. You can be anywhere and still be happy. You can do anything and still be happy. There are no set ingredients and no set recipes for happiness. No matter what family you’re born into, what your past looks like or what mistakes you’ve made, you can still be happy. It’s about being true to who you are, being grateful for what you have and being hopeful for what is to come. Be who you want to be and do what you want to do, and happiness will not be far behind.
And still, after all this time, the Sun has never said to the Earth, “You owe me.” Look what happens with a love like that. It lights up the whole sky. ~ Hafez
Let us be grateful to people who make us happy. They are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom ~ Marcel Proust
A lot hinges on our relationships and interactions with people around us: our energy, motivation, direction, choices, perspectives. That’s why it’s important we build solid, positive, fruitful and invigorating relationships around us. And cut our ties to those who take away from our life:
- The overlookers – we shouldn’t ever be made to feel worthless by those close to us. We shouldn’t ever be consistently ignored, excluded and belittled. We shouldn’t be constantly taken for granted. Although our self-worth should foremost come from within ourselves, relationships with others should nonetheless make us feel valued and appreciated.
- The nay-sayers – those around us shouldn’t distract us from where we want to go, with doubts, negativity, or self-importance. Our loved ones should encourage and push us forward, no matter how much they do not understand or agree with our choices. No matter how much they wish they could do the same too. Those close to us should want us to thrive.
- The game-changers – people who try to mould us into someone else or who won’t accept us for who we are will eventually be suffocating. And we shouldn’t have to change our very core principles and qualities for other people. We all have flaws and we should be able to embrace them, not escape them. We should be around people who love us for who we are.
We can all get heated in the moment. We can easily spit out words in anger, hate, tiredness or sadness. Sometimes it’s the only way to get the point across. But life is so unexpected. We all know it, yet we tell ourselves that bad things won’t happen to us. We’ll just say sorry tomorrow. Or we just won’t speak to them until they apologise. But something might happen. Don’t forget the bigger picture. Remember to say words of kindness, forgiveness, and love to those you care about. Tell the people you truly care about that you love them. Don’t let your last words with them be of anger or hate. Because tomorrow, you might not be able to take it back.
These quotes are for all the fathers who have loved their children in whichever way they can, but especially to my own daddy who has always believed in me, always helped me, and always loved me. Thank you.
Even if discovering the Shaytards nine months ago seems as if I was slightly behind the other million people already subscribed, the Shaytards YouTube vlogs have been firmly entrenched in my daily routine from the beginning, whether watching them at breakfast, on the treadmill, or before I go to bed. As a family of seven, the family always keep me entertained in every video, giving a laugh when I need one, offering pieces of advice to ponder on, or letting me in on the sweetest moments. You become a part of the family.
With the day that marks the end of five years of vlogging every day and the day that is going to bring a new chapter to the Shaytards online community fast approaching, I wanted to share some of the things I really love and appreciate about the Shaytards family (which could probably go on for pages); maybe I’ll even inspire some of you to check them out on YouTube and subscribe (they’re nearly at two million subscribers!), because I can’t imagine having never found them. And if the Shaytards ever read this, I just want to say thank you, keep doing what you’re doing in any way that you can, and I look forward to watching your adventures to come. The Shaytards remind me:
- That happiness comes from the smallest and simplest things; and the biggest source of happiness is most importantly those around you, whatever kind of family you have created for yourself. This is something that is achievable for everyone. Materiality and superficiality isn’t important.
- To live by the saying “Happiness is a choice”. No matter how bad things seem or what goes wrong, whether your car breaks down, you’re stuck in traffic and are going to be late for something, or someone has a last minute problem, you can choose to be happy and look at the bigger picture.
- Not to be afraid or shy of being yourself: you can be crazy if you’re having fun or making someone laugh, and you don’t have to wear your make-up to go out in public.
- To follow your dreams and reach your goals, however unimaginable or easily achievable they are.
- To have morals and keep to them, because at the end of the day, if you’re a good person and you help others as much as you can, then you’re living a good life.
- That you can have children that are both crazy and spirited, and well-behaved. I don’t know how they do it, but I admire the children for how helpful they are around the house and with the younger kids, how patient they are and how kind they are.
- That not being in control of everything is not always a bad thing. Accept others for who they are and all their flaws and allow them to make mistakes, and this way you will love that other person all the more and more of the time.
- To root for the underdog. And that can be as simple as yourself.