Our life isn’t always as bad as it seems inside our heads. Our opinions and emotions are nurtured by what we know and what we’ve seen. But if you were to look from the outside, what might you see? Would it be a bad life like the one we’ve conjured up in our heads? Or would it be a life to be grateful for? There are others looking in who envy your life, who are wishing for a life like yours, who are perhaps even fighting for it. Take a step back and let’s quit making it out to be so bad. Because it really isn’t. It could be worse. And there’s a lot going for you, for many of us.
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We all have an endless supply of blank spaces to fill. Spaces to shape who we are. Spaces to discover and explore. Spaces to learn and think. Spaces to try and fall and try again. Spaces to imagine and build. We all have endless opportunities, possibilities, and fates. We’re not stuck on one road or labelled as one person. We can be whoever we want to be, do whatever we want to do, and more. Let’s not limit ourselves. Let’s let go. Let’s make the most of it. Dwell in possibility and fill those blank spaces.
Our biggest blessing is that we are the ones in control of our fate. We make the choices. Our biggest misfortune is that we are the ones in control of our fate. We cannot wait around for great things to happen. We should not wait around for permission to make great things happen. We should not shy away from making great things happen because other things we tried never materialised. Only we can make great things happen. We have to choose to make great things happen and to let great things happen. Because greatness lies within us, not outside in the world. We have to be persistent, forgiving, loyal, flexible, and visionary. We are in control of who we are and what we do. And that’s how we’ll make it count, the only way how we’ll make things happen.
We will never have everything we want. Partly because the concept of ‘want’ is ever-changing for each of us – once we have something we want, we’re often already focusing on the next thing we want. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting. That’s what keeps our hearts pumping. How we perceive our journey to those desires, yearnings, and passions is more problematic. Because the world doesn’t owe us any favours. We cannot expect everything to fall into our hands. And we cannot expect what we do have already to stay in our back pockets. We have to use our hands to work for those desires and also nurture those treasures we already have. It might be frustrating, unfair, difficult. But we have to work hard to earn the right to take and keep. Play with the cards you’ve been dealt with. You can win.
From a young age, we are ingrained with a sense of needing to belong. Some of us grow out of it, but many of us still battle with belonging. Our idea of belonging is wanting to fit in and not wanting to end up being labelled differently. But we all belong. There is a place for all of us. Where we are now is where we’re meant to be. But where we are now is not where we’ll always be. We can decide where we want to go. We can decide where we want to stay. And we’ll always belong. Don’t let anybody tell you differently.
“All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.
From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.”
JRR Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
Life is all about perspective. We can look at the glass as being half empty or half full. We can shrink away from the world in fear or we can embrace it with open arms. We can assess situations with vigour, candour, ignorance, or cynicism. We can live in pain and loss or gratitude and fullness. We can see another side to every story. Life is all about perspective. Sometimes it’s hard to grasp that perspective is something we own. Our circumstances, our fate, our relationships may all colour it, but it is ultimately in our hands. We just need to learn to master it. There’s always another way to look at things, and that makes all the difference. Don’t let go of that power.
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. – Wayne Dyer