Question of the week: How are you spending your time?
It’s a question I’ve been asking myself a lot lately. We all have the same amount of time in a day, yet we spend it so differently.
Some of us go after our goals with everything we have but don’t stop to enjoy it, some of us dream bigger than our imagination but hardly put anything into action, and some of us go along with the path set out for us even if it’s not what we want. And there’s every other combination in between.
We all have less and less time as we get older. Are you wasting it? We need to be more conscious of the excuses we’re using and be more honest about what is holding us back. Only then can we move onto what makes us happier and keeps us fulfilled. We might not spend every day to its highest potential, but we can always do better, before it runs out.
Many of us are scared to be alone with our thoughts. We’re scared of what they might say and how they might make us feel. We’re so plugged in and invested in other people’s worlds, but neglect out own. Here’s three reasons to tune into what’s going on inside your head.
Reason One: Find solutions
When we listen to our thoughts and emotions, it’s likely that we’ll shed light on insecurities, anxieties and fears. But don’t be afraid. Instead of burying them away, we can actually face them and find ways to conquer them. We’ll see they’re not untameable. We’ll start to untangle the problems and find ways to overcome them.
Reason Two: Set direction
When we get in touch with our thoughts and emotions, we begin to understand where we want to go. Sometimes we wander aimlessly because we’re lost. Sometimes we find ourselves walking a path because we’re following someone else. We’re not really thinking about what we want and where we want to go. But if you actually do take the time to think and listen, and you follow what your heart is saying, you’ll never be steered wrong.
Reason Three: Realise who you are
When we tune into our thoughts and emotions, we drown out the noise around us and find out who we are. That might be someone who doesn’t care what people think. That might be someone who stands up for what they believe in. That might be someone who sees things differently. Whoever you are, you don’t need to lock them away. Find out what you like and don’t like, where you want to go and what you want to do.
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We’re all afraid of the unknown. It’s our natural instinct – our body and our mind are trained to keep us safe, and therefore comfortable, so we cower away from what we don’t know. But imagine a life where we always know what’s coming next. Imagine a life where we can’t change the path we are on. Isn’t that more scary, a life without curiosity, surprise, excitement? Sure it’s daunting and life can be cruel and painful. But even those times make us stronger. The unknown gives life character. Let’s embrace and see where it takes us.
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Feeling tired? Stressed? Demotivated? Me too. But Idris Elba has some inspiration for us in this video! Don’t be afraid of the road ahead, no matter how far you have to go or how rough it gets.
You owe it to yourself, the world, the power that created you, to live. That means doing your best, expressing gratitude, enjoying yourself, letting go of what hurts you, focusing on the moment, spreading the love, challenging your fears, being yourself. It looks different for everyone but it’s guided by the same principles. Don’t live half-heartedly. Live passionately, enthusiastically, sincerely, generously, and to the fullest.
Today may be filled with challenges. But you are made out of challenges. You’ve conquered them before and you will conquer them again. Take a deep breath. You’ve got this. Shut down the negative self-talk. You can do it, so get to it. Don’t let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game. Because you’re not just a player, you’re the master, and you can do anything you put your mind to.
That moment when we are falling can be the most terrifying. We cannot tell how far we’ll fall, how hard the hit will be or how devastating the aftermath will be. Rarely do we ever picture ourselves catching a second wind. But we can. Falling isn’t a problem if we don’t let the fall be the end. We all make mistakes but we can all recover from them. We can bounce back and catch our second wind. We might not land in the same place as before; it will be an even better destination. Believe you can and it will.
We can walk through life with our eyes closed. And that might be an easy road to take. But there’s so much more to life than our own thoughts and opinions, our own circumstances and hardships, our own drive and fears. And they’re important. But if we open our eyes a little wider, we see a bit more of the world as it is and how it could be. If we listen a little more, we might hear how others see the world too. We can change our thoughts, our circumstances, our fears. We step closer to realising how we make it better and how we make it worse, and how we can continue to make it better. How much better the world would be if we actually look at it and listen to it with an open mind.
Have courage. It doesn’t take perfection or genius to get further in life. It takes guts. We shouldn’t be afraid of failing but afraid of not trying at all. We shouldn’t be afraid of stepping out of our comfort zone but afraid of trapping ourselves in it. We shouldn’t be afraid of our flaws but afraid of not realising their magic. We need to keep trying, keep going, to get further. We won’t ever be perfect. We won’t all be geniuses. But no matter what you think, we can all be brave. And that’s what will get us the furthest.
It’s common for us to pretend we live in a perfect, happy life and we have the strength to fight all its battles alone. Sometimes we are happy. Sometimes we are strong. But it’s also OK to admit that we aren’t always happy and we aren’t always strong. Don’t harbour your sadness or anxiety inside. Don’t ignore it. To be free of it, we have to find our own way to release it. And that only begins by acknowledging it and by expressing it in one way or another. Be honest with yourself. Share your feelings with someone who you feel comfortable with and who you can trust. Express those emotions. It can only make you happier and stronger in the end.