The grass is always greener on the other side. But if you get to the other side, that doesn’t mean your grass will be greener. Because it’s an illusion. People’s lives may seem better to us, but that’s because we’re on the outside looking in. Everyone has problems or weaknesses or hardships, just like we do. We need to focus on our own life and work on our own life, instead of comparing it to others. If we’re too busy look at next door’s grass, then ours is only going to suffer. Appreciate what is right at your feet. If everyone looks after their grass, think what a beautiful world it will be.
Energies come and go like trains at a station. We won’t always be motivated or focused. We won’t always be positive or happy. We won’t always be how we want to be or how we feel we should be. We’re not machines. We need to accept that sometimes we break down, sometimes our heart isn’t in it, sometimes we’re sad, sometimes we’re tired. And that’s ok. We’re human. Let energies come and let them go.
Over time, our perspectives can slowly become clouded, our direction can become aimless, and our vision can crumble. Sometimes we don’t notice. Sometimes we do but we keep doing more of the same anyway. But every now and then, we need to take a moment to refocus. Those moments can put us back on track or reveal an entirely new road. Those moments can reenergise us by uncovering what matters most to us. Those moments help us figure out what’s working and isn’t. Don’t underestimate those moments. Stop and refocus the lens. You’ll notice much better quality if you do.
Sometimes we have to push ourselves. And sometimes we have to pay the price. Stress isn’t all bad; it can spark our mind and body into action in response to a problem or situation. But high levels of stress can have the opposite effect, causing our mind and body to shut down in isolation, fear, lethargy, anger, and depression. Stress shouldn’t ever be a positive indicator to demonstrate how hard we’re working. Stress shouldn’t ever become a shadow that haunts us. It’s much more valuable to look after ourselves. It’s ok to take a breath to sit, to think, to re-prioritise, to re-energise. We’re designed to need a rest. It’s ok to admit that we cannot do everything. We cannot place these pressures on ourselves. It doesn’t make us weak or incapable. Stress will make us weak and incapable in the long term. Don’t let it break you.
People sometimes push the wrong buttons. And fiercely, anger overtakes us, jealousy engulfs us or hurt consumes us. Whilst we should never feel ashamed of these feelings, hanging onto them indefinitely only harms us. We may try to convince ourselves that these emotions only reflect other people and their character, but really they just begin to define who we are. Don’t let someone’s stupidity, insensitivity or wrongdoings pollute you. Don’t let them steal away your focus, faith, happiness and optimism. Because otherwise, it’s like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Paradise. Heaven. Utopia. Nirvana. Bliss. These are spaces we aspire to inhabit, even though, in reality, there are no such places on earth. But there are pieces of paradise everywhere. In both our relationships and our solitude. In both tranquil nature and bustling cities. In both prosperity and breakdown. In both hard work and relaxation. And so on. We’ve just got to learn to look for them, instead of always focusing on the miserable moments. If we do, those pieces of paradise begin to outweigh and wash away everything else. Keep an eye out and embrace them.
Who doesn’t worry too much? We’re all heavily invested in our lives, whether we want to be or not. So naturally, we worry – about everything. But here are three reasons why we shouldn’t be investing time in worrying:
- Worrying serves no useful purpose – It’s a coping mechanism for anticipation, fear and the unknown. But worrying doesn’t clear ourselves of these emotions, it just validates their control over us. Worry deprives us of pleasure, ease and focus on today, because it’s consuming and exhausting. What’s the point? Stop worrying about things that haven’t happened and concentrate on both the blessings and the problems at hand.
- We always expect the worst – To cope with feeling vulnerable and uncomfortable about not knowing where we stand, we take it upon ourselves to try and fill in the gaps. But we often expect the worst of ourselves and of life’s attitude towards us. Although we shouldn’t sail through life expecting diamonds and gold, there’s no point in wasting time and energy worrying about something that never materialises in reality.
- Everything’s going to be ok – If the worst eventuality does roll around, don’t be disheartened. Every cloud has it’s silver lining. And you have the strength to find it and seize it. Save up that energy you spend on worrying for the day you’re going to need a little extra in your pocket. You’ll thank yourself later.