Sometimes we’re knocked down by failure. But that doesn’t mean failure holds us down. Sometimes we’re hit by failure. But that doesn’t mean failure stops us from moving forward. Sometimes we’re marked by failure. But that doesn’t mean failure defines us. It’s all in our attitude and perspective. If we let failure get the best of us, it will. When we get knocked down, let’s get back up again. There’s nobody to tell us we can’t except ourselves.
It doesn’t matter where you are. You are nowhere compared to where you can go. ~ Bob Procter
Quote of the day.
Even though we often tend to relive it, we ultimately cannot change the past. And whilst punishing ourselves seems to fit what we think we deserve, we need to learn to forgive ourselves. Because without forgiveness, there’s no moving forward and then there’s no future. We should always forgive ourselves for our mistakes, but here are a few times when we definitely should:
- When we let other people down – sometimes we have to do what’s best for us. And sometimes that’s borne out of things beyond our control. We cannot always please everyone and satisfy our own passions and dreams at the same time. At the end of the day, we have one life and we have to live it.
- When we trust the wrong person – we cannot see the inner workings of another person. So we cannot expect ourselves to know another’s intentions or predict another’s actions. Trust might be hard to hand out again next time, but don’t give up on it, because relationships are beautiful. They mean you’re living and not hiding.
- When we think we should be perfect – we set high expectations of ourselves, even if they’ve been created by somebody else. We all have limitations that we either need to accept or overcome. Don’t be so harsh on yourself. It’s ok to mess up. That’s how we get better.
- When we gave up on something – we all have times when we give up on something for a particular reason, whether temporary or permanent. And later on, we might come to regret that. But it’s never too late to start on an old or a new ambition. Learn a lesson from the last experience and push past that hurdle this time.
There is no sense in punishing your future for the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself, grow from it, and then let it go.
What do you need to get better at forgiving yourself for?
When we’re faced with a decision, one of the questions pressing in our minds is whether we’re going to make the right choice. A lot of the time, it’s not obvious. But let’s not let that stop us. There are many routes to an abundant, prosperous and happy life – because life is what we make of it. If we end up going one way or another, we will be happy and successful. Life is open to us and holds so many beautiful possibilities that we can capture. We shouldn’t get caught up in the what ifs. And if we happen to make a bad choice, we can still move forward. Don’t let anything hold you back. Life is an open plan waiting for you to embark on.
Sometimes life is a struggle between knowing when to push on and when to give up. It’s hard to know when it’s the last straw, the last chance or the last attempt. Giving up is perceived as weak, lazy and cowardly. But giving up can also be brave and essential to our happiness. To give up on a bad career, on a relationship that’s going nowhere, or on a path that’s leading us in the wrong direction is admirable. To give up can bring relief, peace and freedom. It can give us back our time, our focus, and our energy. Of course, there are times when we shouldn’t give up. And sometimes we just have to follow our instincts to know what to do. But ultimately, we shouldn’t give up on our own wellbeing. Sometimes that requires some holding on and some letting go. Whichever it is, let it lead you forward.
Not all who wander are lost. But even wandering has purpose. Where are you headed? Because the direction we choose to head in will lead us to the place we end up in. What does that place look like? It’s hard to know which direction is the right one. And we naturally change our minds all the time. But it’s important to realise that we do not need to follow the rules, the expectations, the norm or the easy. We need to follow our heart, no matter how thorny, overwhelming, difficult or lonely it may seem. Because even if it turns out to be all those things, even if the destination is nothing like we imagined, and even if we change our mind, at least we sacrifice that yearning inside. Our heart will always lead us to where we’re meant to be.