Being honest is often daunting, but also liberating. Being honest with others and being honest with ourselves releases the weight of secrets, the pressures of pretence, and the tangles of a tale. We shouldn’t have to lie about who we are or what we do. It gets draining after a while, to the point where we can’t see a way out and life isn’t pleasant anymore. It might be daunting, but it’s true when they say that the truth will set you free.
Letting go of the past
It’s hard for us to forget our mistakes, and even harder for us to forgive ourselves. But whether we accept it or not, the past is done and dusted; it is written already. But that doesn’t mean the pen is out of our hands, that our story is already written. No, our story continues as long as we do. Whatever you do, don’t let it stop because of the past. There’s always time for a plot twist.
Following your heart
Don’t listen to others who tell you who to be, how to be, what to do, if you don’t agree. Whether it’s your family, your friends, your society, nobody has more power over you than you do. It’s exhausting trying to please everyone, meet their high standards, follow what is expected, because nobody’s outlook on life is the same. Nor should it be. Do you and be the best you that you can be. The rest will fall into place.
It’s tempting to lock away our past, our sorrows, our mistakes. But we shouldn’t hang onto them like a burden. We shouldn’t be ashamed of them at all. If we try to bury them too far, they begin to pollute us from the inside and eventually overpower us. But if we slowly set them free, let them go or accept them for what they are, we can be free too. They’ll no longer define us, but guide us. They can serve more purpose than we realise.
When we let go, we free ourselves. When we let go of expectations, we free ourselves of disappointment. When we let go of what people think, we free ourselves of boundaries and limitations. When we let go of our fear of failing, we open ourselves up to memorable and life changing experiences. When we let go of unhealthy relationships, we open ourselves up to self-worth and self-love. Let go of the anchor tying you down to the seabed, and float to the surface. Don’t live in reflections and darkness, but soak up the light and breathe in that fresh gulp of air.
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself. When we are ourselves, we are at our most comfortable. And at our most free. When we are ourselves, we are at our most passionate about life and generous towards life. It’s when we are our most beautiful. And our most happy. Don’t be afraid to unleash it. Why would we live any other way?