Tis the season to be jolly. There’s something about the holiday time that changes our outlook on life. And that’s primarily because it’s a time for giving, for generosity and for kindness. We’re more forgiving and accepting of others’ flaws and mistakes. We’re more charitable and hospitable towards those less fortunate. We open ourselves up, letting love both infiltrate and radiate. Christmas time really goes to show how much giving can boost our happiness, our energy and our sense of worth. It’s a beautiful cycle that shouldn’t be underestimated or broken. It’s a spirit that we should hold onto all throughout the year.
People change. Time ticks on and life goes on, so people change. Sometimes they’re tested to new extremes. Sometimes old wounds are ripped open. And we all respond differently. People break, people fight, people forget, people grow. And we cannot expect others to respond the same way we would. We cannot tell others how to feel. Sometimes all we can do is listen and comfort. Other times all we can do is accept and move on. People change. We change. Try to make the best of it.
Situations are often awkward because of us: we spit out stupid remarks, we become lost for words, we act impulsively, we’re clueless to something obvious, or we try to be someone we’re not. Awkwardness often derives from our tendency to overcompensate for a situation we find uncomfortable or unfamiliar or from our inclination to be overly self-conscious about our own actions. And sometimes being awkward is who we are, and that is ok too. Just be yourself. Embrace the awkwardness. Laugh at yourself. We’re not perfect. And if someone expects us to be, then they’re not worth our time. The people who are worth our time are those who make us worth their time too – and that means they won’t get hung up on one awkward impression. Chances are that our awkwardness isn’t even as pronounced as we think it is. And to be honest, we’re all awkward, so let’s just own it.
Surround yourself with people who want to escape to, not escape from. Surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed, who want the best for you, who push you higher, regardless of their own circumstances. Surround yourself with people who love and believe in you, despite your mistakes. Surround yourself with people who will bask in the sun with you after countless days of standing out in the rain with you. Surround yourself with people who you can sit comfortably in silence with, but also with people who listen to the music and the sirens. And lastly, be that person for someone else.