Life is a journey. Life is a teacher. Life is a blend of experiences and moments. If life was always easy, always perfect, always predictable, it would be boring. And it would be letting us down. Keep learning, keep falling, keep growing. Life cannot be magical without making us thrive, survive, and feel alive.
It’s easy to punish ourselves for the things we’ve done in the past. But the truth is, since then, we’ve changed – we’re not that person of the past anymore. And more importantly, we can change. Stop beating yourself up for something you did when you were a different person. Start focusing on where you’re going and how you’re going about it. Don’t let the sadness of the past rob the happiness of now. Always forgive, but never forget, learn from your mistakes, but never regret.
The grass is always greener on the other side. But if you get to the other side, that doesn’t mean your grass will be greener. Because it’s an illusion. People’s lives may seem better to us, but that’s because we’re on the outside looking in. Everyone has problems or weaknesses or hardships, just like we do. We need to focus on our own life and work on our own life, instead of comparing it to others. If we’re too busy look at next door’s grass, then ours is only going to suffer. Appreciate what is right at your feet. If everyone looks after their grass, think what a beautiful world it will be.
If you were to give yourself advice, how different would it be to the advice you’d give a friend in a similar situation? We often tend to be harsher on ourselves, less forgiving and sympathetic, with higher expectations and levels of criticism. We don’t always give ourselves advice, but give ourselves lectures. But we deserve some compassion, love and understanding from ourselves. We’re not perfect. We make mistakes. And that’s ok. If we learn and grow, there’s no unwritten rule saying we should punish ourselves. We have to take care of ourselves. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
If we plant a handful of seeds into the ground, we cannot predict how tall and strong they’ll grow. Some might grow more than others. But if we nurture them with love and care, we may find different results. More will grow than not. It’s the same with us. We might be planted in this world in particular conditions. But that doesn’t define who we are or how successful we are. We define that. If we’re willing to put the time in, if we’re willing to take care of ourselves, and most importantly, if we’re willing to believe in ourselves, we’ll exceed what we might have once been deemed capable of. We’re more than our circumstances. We’re our passion, our persistence and our positivity. If we stick it out in the darkness, we’ll quickly find the light.