Focus on fewer goals – we often make the mistake that we want to change everything at once. And whilst there might be lots of things we want to achieve and change, we cannot do everything overnight. Pick a couple to really give your all to each month or each quarter. Once they’re engrained in your life, you can look at picking up more.
Break down bigger goals into smaller ones – our passion for our new year or life goals can slowly morph into overwhelm when we realise how long the road ahead is. That’s why we should set short rest stops along the way. Set weekly, monthly, quarterly milestones to give your journey more direction and make it more enjoyable.
Find your why – goals are nothing without the drive behind them. Make sure you’re setting goals that actually mean something to you and that you’re setting them for the right reasons. Create a vision board, even digitally on Pinterest, to remind yourself of your intentions and to push you when you need it.
Keep track of your progress – motivate yourself by tracking your habits and progress across the month. I like to note down what I’ve achieved and what habits I’ve stuck to everyday in a journal.
Improve your accountability – tell a friend about your goals to help you stay accountable and get support when you need it. Plan out when you’re going to commit time to achieving your goals each week. Be realistic, but you have to make the time and stick to your schedule.
The worst risk we can take is never taking a risk at all. The worst mistake we can make is never making a mistake at all. Where’s the journey? Where’s the adventure? Where’s the growth? Where’s the magic? You won’t find it hiding yourself away. You won’t find it if you never try anything. Some will work out and some will not. But out of those things that don’t, something better might. Losing that would be the biggest risk, mistake and regret.
It may not seem like it at the time, but life will work itself out for the best in the end. Rain will make the flowers grow. Darkness will illuminate the light. Villains will create heroes. Difficult roads will lead to beautiful destinations. Don’t worry. Hard times will pass, but they’ll make you stronger. Better times will follow in their wake. Keep holding on.
Although it’s tempting to tuck our negatives into a box underneath the bed, sometimes, in life, we have to venture into the darkroom. And that’s not because we should hold onto the past as a way to punish ourselves, torment ourselves, or hold ourselves back. But because our negatives have so much more to offer us than the negatives. We can confront the past. Move on. Learn a lesson. Switch perspectives. Instigate changes. Grant forgiveness. Enhance strength. And build a healthier, more positive life. Don’t be afraid of your negatives. Don’t get hung up on them either. Grow from your negatives. And turn them into positives.
If life was easy, we’d never grow stronger. If life was easy, we’d never become wiser. If life was easy, we’d never know how strong or wise we already are. If life was easy, we’d never learn who we are, what we’re worth, and what we deserve. If life was easy, we’d take it for granted. If life was easy, we’d never appreciate what we have or what we could have. If life was easy, we’d never have any passion or fire or desire. If life was easy, it’d be pretty miserable. When life is hard, it can be miserable too. But at least we still get the dawns and the stars amidst the darkness. Don’t pray for any easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.
Flawesome (adjective): an individual who embraces their flaws and knows they’re awesome regardless.
We have a bad habit of letting our flaws be the way we set ourselves apart from each other. You are so much smarter/prettier/more popular than me. She must think I am such a bad role model. Sometimes our tendency to mix our self perception with other people leads to jealousy and hate and other times to insecurity and self-hate. But we shouldn’t be letting our ‘flaws’ infect our relationships with other people and especially not our relationship with ourselves. Because having flaws might set us apart, but it also makes us who we are. And who we are is awesome. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you otherwise. We all have flaws. And if we keep thinking of them as something bad, we’ll never be able to grow, because we’re too caught up in them. We need to learn to accept them and embrace them. You’re awesome regardless of your flaws. You’re flawesome.
We all have limitations. We all have fears and worries. We all have things that trigger our anger and frustration. We all have gaps in our perceptions, understanding and knowledge. But walls are only in the mind. We’ll never be perfect. We’ll never know everything. And that’s okay. But we can always be better. Even if it’s just at coping. We can push the limits and break down our limitations. We just need to choose to. We need to be willing to work on ourselves and grow. We set our own limitations. And we can knock them down too.