Focus on fewer goals – we often make the mistake that we want to change everything at once. And whilst there might be lots of things we want to achieve and change, we cannot do everything overnight. Pick a couple to really give your all to each month or each quarter. Once they’re engrained in your life, you can look at picking up more.
Break down bigger goals into smaller ones – our passion for our new year or life goals can slowly morph into overwhelm when we realise how long the road ahead is. That’s why we should set short rest stops along the way. Set weekly, monthly, quarterly milestones to give your journey more direction and make it more enjoyable.
Find your why – goals are nothing without the drive behind them. Make sure you’re setting goals that actually mean something to you and that you’re setting them for the right reasons. Create a vision board, even digitally on Pinterest, to remind yourself of your intentions and to push you when you need it.
Keep track of your progress – motivate yourself by tracking your habits and progress across the month. I like to note down what I’ve achieved and what habits I’ve stuck to everyday in a journal.
Improve your accountability – tell a friend about your goals to help you stay accountable and get support when you need it. Plan out when you’re going to commit time to achieving your goals each week. Be realistic, but you have to make the time and stick to your schedule.
The worst risk we can take is never taking a risk at all. The worst mistake we can make is never making a mistake at all. Where’s the journey? Where’s the adventure? Where’s the growth? Where’s the magic? You won’t find it hiding yourself away. You won’t find it if you never try anything. Some will work out and some will not. But out of those things that don’t, something better might. Losing that would be the biggest risk, mistake and regret.
It may not seem like it at the time, but life will work itself out for the best in the end. Rain will make the flowers grow. Darkness will illuminate the light. Villains will create heroes. Difficult roads will lead to beautiful destinations. Don’t worry. Hard times will pass, but they’ll make you stronger. Better times will follow in their wake. Keep holding on.
Although it’s tempting to tuck our negatives into a box underneath the bed, sometimes, in life, we have to venture into the darkroom. And that’s not because we should hold onto the past as a way to punish ourselves, torment ourselves, or hold ourselves back. But because our negatives have so much more to offer us than the negatives. We can confront the past. Move on. Learn a lesson. Switch perspectives. Instigate changes. Grant forgiveness. Enhance strength. And build a healthier, more positive life. Don’t be afraid of your negatives. Don’t get hung up on them either. Grow from your negatives. And turn them into positives.
If life was easy, we’d never grow stronger. If life was easy, we’d never become wiser. If life was easy, we’d never know how strong or wise we already are. If life was easy, we’d never learn who we are, what we’re worth, and what we deserve. If life was easy, we’d take it for granted. If life was easy, we’d never appreciate what we have or what we could have. If life was easy, we’d never have any passion or fire or desire. If life was easy, it’d be pretty miserable. When life is hard, it can be miserable too. But at least we still get the dawns and the stars amidst the darkness. Don’t pray for any easy life. Pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.
Flawesome (adjective): an individual who embraces their flaws and knows they’re awesome regardless.
We have a bad habit of letting our flaws be the way we set ourselves apart from each other. You are so much smarter/prettier/more popular than me. She must think I am such a bad role model. Sometimes our tendency to mix our self perception with other people leads to jealousy and hate and other times to insecurity and self-hate. But we shouldn’t be letting our ‘flaws’ infect our relationships with other people and especially not our relationship with ourselves. Because having flaws might set us apart, but it also makes us who we are. And who we are is awesome. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you otherwise. We all have flaws. And if we keep thinking of them as something bad, we’ll never be able to grow, because we’re too caught up in them. We need to learn to accept them and embrace them. You’re awesome regardless of your flaws. You’re flawesome.
We all have limitations. We all have fears and worries. We all have things that trigger our anger and frustration. We all have gaps in our perceptions, understanding and knowledge. But walls are only in the mind. We’ll never be perfect. We’ll never know everything. And that’s okay. But we can always be better. Even if it’s just at coping. We can push the limits and break down our limitations. We just need to choose to. We need to be willing to work on ourselves and grow. We set our own limitations. And we can knock them down too.
Sometimes we have to go against the crowd, the current, the common. It’s paramount for our principles, for our sanity, for our future, for our growth. It might be easier to follow the flow and copy what everyone else is doing, but it’s not the most satisfying or worthwhile. We should be out experimenting, discovering, learning, challenging, creating, living. Stand by what you believe in and stick to who you are. Otherwise, you might not recognise yourself in the reflection.
Never forget that only dead fish swim with the stream – Malcolm Muggeridge
Our selves are made up of a spectrum of intricacies: not just our past, not just where we come from, and not just who we associate with. We are not just one thing. We are not defined by other people’s labels. And we do not have to impose labels on ourselves. We are ever-changing. We learn about ourselves with each situation we encounter and each decision we make. We manoeuvre, adapt and grow, sometimes unexpectedly and sometimes naturally. Let’s be open to the evolution of our selves. Let’s grasp all our dreams tightly. Let’s march into the future bravely. Let’s not apologise for who we are or for wanting to change our minds. Be who you want to be at this point in time, and act upon it.
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Change is terrifying, testing, and inevitable. But it is also essential, beneficial and awesome. Here’s a few reasons why:
- We are challenged to experience new things. Most of us are afraid of change because it is so unknown and ultimately out of our comfort zone. But where’s the sense of adventure, curiosity and wonder in staying in the same place? We are given the opportunity to explore more of the world and its array of colours through change.
- Along with our new experiences, we grow as a person; we learn not only about the situations we are put in, but also about ourselves. We might make mistakes, but they are never wasted, because we are always taking in what we should do better next time, how to approach different situations and how to adapt.
- Life will progress with change. Without being able to experience or learn anything new, we would never be able to see the flaws in ourselves or the world. And without change, we would never realise that impossibilities can become possibilities, that limits are only figments of the imagination, that what we know now is only a snippet of what we can know. Without change, we would never be able to start again or improve. Change means that we can become whoever we want to be and create a world that we want to see.