Hate is a deceiving emotion. We often think it makes us feel powerful, mighty and fierce. But hate is devious, manipulative and subtle. It slowly clouds over your mind. It slowly weighs you down. And it slowly eats away at your heart. Hate is a burden we carry without properly realising. It never does as much damage to another as it does to ourselves. Try practicing love instead. And I don’t only mean love in the traditional sense of kindness and passion. But also forgiveness, and if not forgiveness then acceptance, and if not acceptance then tolerance. Try practicing love with yourself as much as with others. It works wonders.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that. ~ Martin Luther King Jr.
You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one. I hope someday you’ll join us. And the world will live as one. ~ John Lennon
Pray for Paris and Pray for the World
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There’s so much we can get stuck into in life. But sometimes there are things that end up tying us down. Here’s a few things we shouldn’t get so caught up in:
- In some respect, details can dampen the spirit of life. When we plan out our life in too minute detail, we set expectations of ourselves and the future. But life is unexpected, and so details can not only leave us disappointed but also rigid and restricted. We lose our sense of spontaneity and possibility.
- Gossip may seem perfectly normal, and perhaps even harmless, but it is rooted in negativity, hate and competition. And it doesn’t just have consequences for those we talk about, but ourselves too. When we gossip, we judge other people, we bring other people down, and we might even end up twisting stories that are passed on. We lose our sense of kindness and positivity.
- People are always trying to place definitions on everyone and everything associated with everyone. But let’s remember that we are in control of who we are and who we want to be. And we are so much more than just one thing or one label. Don’t be afraid for stand for something, or more than one thing, but most of all don’t worry about what anyone thinks. Otherwise we’ll lose our sense of self.
The price of anything is the amount of life you exchange for it. Our lives are made up of our investments: what we invest our time and energy into. We sometimes pay the price and other times we add value to our investments. And a lot of the time, we will see a similar return. If we invest in hate over love, in the past over the future, in negativity over positivity, and so on, we’ll often find that that will come back to us. Sometimes we make mistakes, and that’s ok. But let’s be conscious of what we’re investing into. Because we want to live life, not waste it. So choose wisely.
We can all get heated in the moment. We can easily spit out words in anger, hate, tiredness or sadness. Sometimes it’s the only way to get the point across. But life is so unexpected. We all know it, yet we tell ourselves that bad things won’t happen to us. We’ll just say sorry tomorrow. Or we just won’t speak to them until they apologise. But something might happen. Don’t forget the bigger picture. Remember to say words of kindness, forgiveness, and love to those you care about. Tell the people you truly care about that you love them. Don’t let your last words with them be of anger or hate. Because tomorrow, you might not be able to take it back.
Flawesome (adjective): an individual who embraces their flaws and knows they’re awesome regardless.
We have a bad habit of letting our flaws be the way we set ourselves apart from each other. You are so much smarter/prettier/more popular than me. She must think I am such a bad role model. Sometimes our tendency to mix our self perception with other people leads to jealousy and hate and other times to insecurity and self-hate. But we shouldn’t be letting our ‘flaws’ infect our relationships with other people and especially not our relationship with ourselves. Because having flaws might set us apart, but it also makes us who we are. And who we are is awesome. Don’t let anyone, including yourself, tell you otherwise. We all have flaws. And if we keep thinking of them as something bad, we’ll never be able to grow, because we’re too caught up in them. We need to learn to accept them and embrace them. You’re awesome regardless of your flaws. You’re flawesome.
There are two types of criticism: the constructive and the hateful. Both have very different motives: the former aims to push us higher and the latter to pull us down. And I distinctly say ‘push’ and ‘pull’ because those who criticise to pull us down are generally people who are stuck at the bottom themselves; they are provoked by jealousy, ignorance, and inadequacy in their own life, which they need to project onto those who are trying and succeeding. Do not let them triumph by allowing them to pull you down with hateful comments. They do not understand your passion and drive, your happiness and purpose. Do not let them steal those away from you, because you do not deserve it and they do not deserve the satisfaction. Let that type of criticism either fuel your journey to success even further or fly over your head. No matter what people say, keep going.