People change. Time ticks on and life goes on, so people change. Sometimes they’re tested to new extremes. Sometimes old wounds are ripped open. And we all respond differently. People break, people fight, people forget, people grow. And we cannot expect others to respond the same way we would. We cannot tell others how to feel. Sometimes all we can do is listen and comfort. Other times all we can do is accept and move on. People change. We change. Try to make the best of it.
Hold onto who you are. Hold onto your dignity, compassion and enthusiasm. Hold onto your patience, tolerance and forgiveness. Hold onto those who inspire and energise you, who laugh and cry with you. Hold onto love, the love others give you and your capacity to love endlessly. Hold onto the beautiful memories of times past. Hold onto hope for the future and for the unknown. Hold onto today. Hold on tight to the good things in life. Be careful they don’t slip through the cracks or shatter on the floor. Not all great things happen twice.
It’s scary to admit when things aren’t working. Sometimes it’s because we live in hope they will get better soon. Sometimes it’s because we know there will be a long journey ahead of us. Sometimes it’s because we have no idea what the future will hold. It can be hard to let go of something we know without knowing what we’re giving it up for. But we all deserve to be happy. And that is out there somewhere. Happiness is the one thing we cannot give up on. There is more out there than we can imagine or ever know. If we’ve tried our best to make things work and they still don’t, be brave enough to walk away from them and venture into new things. Sometimes we have to subtract when things aren’t adding up. You owe it to yourself to try.
Sometimes we feel like there’s no way out. Sometimes we feel like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. Sometimes we cannot see the stars. Sometimes we don’t want to get out of bed. Sometimes we don’t feel good enough. Sometimes we feel alone. Sometimes we feel like there’s nothing to hold onto. And all these feelings are valid. But that doesn’t mean we’re right. Sometimes we’ve got to be patient, even when it’s excruciating. Sometimes we’ve got to keep on going, even if we don’t know where. And most of all, we’ve got to love ourselves, even if we don’t think we’re worthy of it. Life will get better. Life will get easier. You deserve life and love and light. Don’t give up on it.
There are times when we feel like we’re drowning. We’re trying to tread water but our body feels heavy and we’re on the verge of letting the waves wash over us. Sometimes we’re giving into those voices inside our heads and other times we’re giving into the voices of others, telling us we’re not good enough. But we need to hold onto whatever has got us this far, whether it’s passion, love, confidence, belief, courage. We need to tune out those voices and play our fight song. Because you are good enough. You are strong. You can do this. You still have it in you. Prove those voices wrong.
What couldn’t you live without? What are you grateful for? What do you take for granted? The sound of laughter from loved ones. The comfort of a rooted home. The passion found in a new project. The thrill of a new adventure. Crossing the finish line. Freedom. Integrity. Vision. Our soul. Whatever it is, that is what we should work for, fight for and hold onto. Don’t lose sight of it. Things have a way of slipping out of our grip when we’re not holding tight enough.
Sometimes life is a struggle between knowing when to push on and when to give up. It’s hard to know when it’s the last straw, the last chance or the last attempt. Giving up is perceived as weak, lazy and cowardly. But giving up can also be brave and essential to our happiness. To give up on a bad career, on a relationship that’s going nowhere, or on a path that’s leading us in the wrong direction is admirable. To give up can bring relief, peace and freedom. It can give us back our time, our focus, and our energy. Of course, there are times when we shouldn’t give up. And sometimes we just have to follow our instincts to know what to do. But ultimately, we shouldn’t give up on our own wellbeing. Sometimes that requires some holding on and some letting go. Whichever it is, let it lead you forward.