Being honest is often daunting, but also liberating. Being honest with others and being honest with ourselves releases the weight of secrets, the pressures of pretence, and the tangles of a tale. We shouldn’t have to lie about who we are or what we do. It gets draining after a while, to the point where we can’t see a way out and life isn’t pleasant anymore. It might be daunting, but it’s true when they say that the truth will set you free.
Letting go of the past
It’s hard for us to forget our mistakes, and even harder for us to forgive ourselves. But whether we accept it or not, the past is done and dusted; it is written already. But that doesn’t mean the pen is out of our hands, that our story is already written. No, our story continues as long as we do. Whatever you do, don’t let it stop because of the past. There’s always time for a plot twist.
Following your heart
Don’t listen to others who tell you who to be, how to be, what to do, if you don’t agree. Whether it’s your family, your friends, your society, nobody has more power over you than you do. It’s exhausting trying to please everyone, meet their high standards, follow what is expected, because nobody’s outlook on life is the same. Nor should it be. Do you and be the best you that you can be. The rest will fall into place.
It’s common for us to pretend we live in a perfect, happy life and we have the strength to fight all its battles alone. Sometimes we are happy. Sometimes we are strong. But it’s also OK to admit that we aren’t always happy and we aren’t always strong. Don’t harbour your sadness or anxiety inside. Don’t ignore it. To be free of it, we have to find our own way to release it. And that only begins by acknowledging it and by expressing it in one way or another. Be honest with yourself. Share your feelings with someone who you feel comfortable with and who you can trust. Express those emotions. It can only make you happier and stronger in the end.
Whatever you are, be a good one. Don’t live half-heartedly, mindlessly or absently. Live passionately, freely, and honestly. Be who you want to be and no other version. Don’t second guess it, but own it. We were all put on this earth for a reason – and it wasn’t to be the same.
A lot can happen in a lifetime. Sometimes life softens us and other times it hardens us. Sometimes life inspires us and other times it disheartens us. Sometimes life favours us and other times it breaks us. Life is a challenge for all of us. But don’t let it get the best of you. Even in the coldest of winters, stay warm. Don’t let life snatch away your trust, love, persistence, faith, courage, instinct, forgiveness, acceptance, strength, gratitude, honesty, positivity. Stay warm on the inside no matter how brutal it gets on the outside. If we do, the ice will eventually thaw.
Kindness is natural to many of us. But sometimes we forget that we also have perfectly natural feelings that might not quite align with kindness and love. So here are a few ideas about how we can continue to be more compassionate and conscious of our levels of kindness:
- Encourage other people’s dreams and pursuits, instead of casting doubts or negativity over their ambitions. We can offer constructive advice, but we can never define another’s capabilities and drive.
- Celebrate other people’s successes, instead of allowing jealousy to cloud the occasion. Most of the time, people work hard to achieve their goals, and we shouldn’t deny them of the glory.
- Comfort other people in times of turmoil or grief, instead of spouting the ‘I told you so’s. People are often vulnerable during these times, and they want to be reminded that everything will be ok in the end.
- Inspire other people to be the best they can be, instead of trying to influence or mould them into our idea of what is best for them. We all have our own paths we want to take and people we want to be, so let’s open the world to everyone instead of close it off.
How do you like to show your compassion and spread kindness?