We’ve been taught from a young age to hide away or fix away our flaws. But in the Japanese art of Kintsugi, broken pottery is mended with gold. It stands out on purpose. The art celebrates the cracks and the eventualities that led to those cracks. The pot is seen as something more precious than before. The pot is seen as something that was never truly broken. Just like in Kintsugi, there is beauty in our imperfections. There are stories in our scars. There is strength born out of our flaws. Let’s stop hiding them away. We are stronger and more beautiful for having been broken.
We all have weaknesses. We all have flaws. We all have vulnerabilities. And so we should. We should be raw. We should be authentic. We should be imperfect. It’s precisely our imperfections that promise living rather than existing. Imperfections are the place where we grow, where we dream, and where we act. Imperfections are where beauty blossoms, character builds, and life happens. Embrace your imperfections. Let people see your imperfections. Know that your imperfections are what make life perfect.
There is no beauty without some strangeness ~ Edgar Allan Poe
Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself ~ Coco Chanel
I always find beauty in things that are odd and imperfect – they are much more interesting ~ Mark Jacobs
Beauty is not in a face. Beauty is a light in the heart ~ Kahlil Gibran
(Poe and Gibran images: Pinterest; Chanel image: crated.com; Jacobs image: quotesgram.com)
We all have limitations. We all have fears and worries. We all have things that trigger our anger and frustration. We all have gaps in our perceptions, understanding and knowledge. But walls are only in the mind. We’ll never be perfect. We’ll never know everything. And that’s okay. But we can always be better. Even if it’s just at coping. We can push the limits and break down our limitations. We just need to choose to. We need to be willing to work on ourselves and grow. We set our own limitations. And we can knock them down too.
The idea of perfection haunts many of us. It might be that we expect perfection of ourselves. It might be that we imagine perfection in others. But we are all just trying to do our best, and that is all we can ask of ourselves and others.
We all have moments of confidence, success and joy. Equally, we all break down, we all slip up, we all sink in insecurity and anxiety. We all put too much pressure on ourselves and we all hide our problems away from others. In fact, we probably put more pressure on ourselves to be perfect because we assume other people are. We all have parts of ourselves we wish we could swap with someone and there is someone out there who envies those parts we hate.
Let’s commit to accepting, embracing, and looking beyond our imperfections. Let’s remind ourselves that nobody’s life, body, mind are perfect. Let’s do our best, because that is enough.
Confidence is one of the first attributes that people notice in others. Yet so many of us lack confidence in ourselves and our abilities, and this is partly due to the many misconceptions we have about self-confidence. We should all feel confident in our own skin, but in order to do that, we’ll have to let go of the ingrained misinterpretations about the nature of confidence.
First of all, self-confidence is not an ascribed quality of a particular type of person. We can all be self-confident and we are all born with the ability to be self-confident. And confidence isn’t something we attain and hold forever, but actually a state of mind and quality we nurture. To me, this stems from being yourself. Confidence isn’t about fitting in, about being popular or about following the crowd. It isn’t assigned to a particular body type or a person with a particular amount of wealth or status. It isn’t about being perfect. Self-confidence is about being who you are most comfortable being, about standing up for what you believe in, and sticking by your principles. People who are naturally introverted and quiet, or extroverted and outgoing, can be self-confident. Self-confidence isn’t about the outside but the inside. If we constantly try to be something we’re not, we won’t ever feel confident, because we won’t ever feel comfortable or natural in our actions and thoughts; we will constantly be conscious of seeming fake or putting on a face. Confidence shouldn’t be something we pretend, but rather something we feel entitled to.
Linked to that, self-confidence comes from not only being happy with who you are, but also being happy with what you are doing. You don’t have to do what you feel you should be doing or what others want you to do; doing what you love will radiate through your whole being. When you’re content with your life, you value your own opinion much more and don’t mind what other people think. You don’t need to constantly compare yourself to other people, as long as you’re happy with who you are and what you do; we create our own standard of happiness, and that isn’t dependent on anyone else! Additionally, we do not need to be the best at everything we do in order to be confident. Just because we are learning, doesn’t mean we cannot be positive and satisfied with our progress.
Have faith in yourself and in the future. The opportunities are endless and you have the potential to make the most of those opportunities. Focus on what you have already accomplished and the strengths you have developed to bring self-confidence to everything you do in the future. Self-confidence is not bragging or boasting, but remaining humble in your achievements. Surround yourself with positive and loving people, who are happy for your success and love you for who you are. You deserve the best and you deserve to feel your best.
What makes you feel confident? Let me know in the comments!