Many of us are scared to be alone with our thoughts. We’re scared of what they might say and how they might make us feel. We’re so plugged in and invested in other people’s worlds, but neglect out own. Here’s three reasons to tune into what’s going on inside your head.
Reason One: Find solutions
When we listen to our thoughts and emotions, it’s likely that we’ll shed light on insecurities, anxieties and fears. But don’t be afraid. Instead of burying them away, we can actually face them and find ways to conquer them. We’ll see they’re not untameable. We’ll start to untangle the problems and find ways to overcome them.
Reason Two: Set direction
When we get in touch with our thoughts and emotions, we begin to understand where we want to go. Sometimes we wander aimlessly because we’re lost. Sometimes we find ourselves walking a path because we’re following someone else. We’re not really thinking about what we want and where we want to go. But if you actually do take the time to think and listen, and you follow what your heart is saying, you’ll never be steered wrong.
Reason Three: Realise who you are
When we tune into our thoughts and emotions, we drown out the noise around us and find out who we are. That might be someone who doesn’t care what people think. That might be someone who stands up for what they believe in. That might be someone who sees things differently. Whoever you are, you don’t need to lock them away. Find out what you like and don’t like, where you want to go and what you want to do.
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As the year draws to a close, we naturally reflect on what has been and what will come, who we are and who we could be. And that is beautiful. But as we do so, I’m sure we’ll find that what has been and what will be one of our biggest challenges is the feeling of being good enough. Our dreams feel too high in the sky and our prizes too much like perfection. But the truth is we don’t need to be perfect to be happy or successful. We have a whole toolkit inside our minds, from positivity to confidence to endurance to creativity. And we can mess up, we can grow, we can embrace our flaws. We’ll always be good enough and worth so much. There’s no one like you or me. In this upcoming year, let’s not tell ourselves otherwise. Let’s not limit ourselves with self hate and self doubt. Let’s free ourselves and believe in ourselves. We’re really the only thing standing in our way of everything we want.
The greatest gift we can give ourselves is having enough confidence in ourselves: in our voice, in our opinions, in our ideas, and in our capabilities. The truth is, our voice counts, even if it doesn’t ring the loudest. Our opinions matter, because they add colour to a black and white picture. Our ideas make a mark on the world, when we have courage to pursue them. Our capabilities are a special combination that cannot be found anywhere else. Our lack of confidence is unfounded. We’re all amazing in our own way. Let’s believe in ourselves! And let the magic unfold.
Only when our weaknesses are exposed do we stumble upon our strength. We shouldn’t be afraid to acknowledge our weaknesses. We all have gaps in our knowledge. But asking questions can only bring us closer to the answer. We all have something we lack in our capabilities. But testing, failing and learning can only bring us closer to our desired results. We all have insecurities. But accepting them as a part of who we are can only enhance our natural beauty. Strength is realised when we admit our weaknesses. Weakness and strength walk hand in hand. There’s no need to tear them apart.
Artists have been mocked. Actors, actresses and models have been labelled. Innovators have been doubted. Writers have been rejected. Musicians have been dropped. Anyone who works differently is outed. As she begun auditioning, Meryl Streep was told she was “ugly”. Now she is widely thought of as one of the greatest actresses of her time. In his role as a contributor for the San Francisco Examiner, Rudyard Kipling was fired for not knowing “how to use the English language”. Now he continues to be known as a successful writer.
We can’t stop what people say about us. But we can choose what we listen to. Some people are ignorant, insecure and envious. Others are kind, passionate and encouraging. Absorb the positive energy and brush off the rest. You, and you alone, know what you’re capable of. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. Just believe in yourself and show them.
Look again. Our first glance is always clouded. With preconceptions and misconceptions, with doubt and fear, with insecurity and defeat. But if we look again, we might catch a new perspective, a new possibility, a new answer. We tend to rule ourselves out before we even give ourselves chance. Have a little faith in yourself. And have another look. You can do it.
The only place where we are truly confined is in our own mind. And because of this, we often don’t realise that in our mind lies the key to our visions of success, happiness, and love. To find everything we want, we have to be open to it. We have to free our mind. We have to believe in the possibility. We have to let go of insecurities. We have to exceed expectations. We have to be willing to take chances. We have to stop building those walls that limit, restrict, and block us. Tear the existing ones down. You can handle a lot more than you give yourself credit for.