When we’re aware of what brings us down, we can let it go and watch ourselves rise up.
The energy outside affects the energy inside. People who complain all the time, people who blame you for their problems, people who bring you down, people who laugh at your dreams, people absorbed in their own worlds, people who always take and never give, these are all toxic people, if they do it consistently. People who do not add any love or joy to your life aren’t worth keeping. It isn’t selfish to cut them out, take a break, or limit the time you see them.
Other people’s opinions
We’re haunted by other people’s words, opinions and thoughts. Maybe we want to please someone. Maybe we think someone knows better. Maybe we feel we don’t have a choice. But if we’re never listening to our own heart, we’ll never feel truly satisfied, content or excited about life. We’ll add water to the seeds of regret, bitterness and misery. Do what makes you happy; even if it doesn’t always work out, at least you’re following your own path.
Self-limiting and self-doubt
Many of us struggle with low self-confidence. In fact, we could probably argue that it’s nowadays a part of life, at one stage or another. We’re afraid of failure. We punish ourselves for mistakes. We think we’re not good enough or bright enough or beautiful enough. But it’s all in our head. You are good enough. You have to find that belief, that faith, that courage buried inside and see how much your outlook changes.
Trying to fit in
Finding someone to talk about is an ancient pastime; we often gossip to fit in, to connect with a group of people and exclude someone else. On the flip side, we’re afraid to be that person who is excluded. We compare ourselves to others, always trying to erase the things that make us different. We focus on what’s ‘wrong’ with ourselves and what we don’t have. Trying to fit in breeds self-doubt and self-loathing, which leads to negativity. Instead try embracing and loving yourself and doing the same for others.
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Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore. ~ Cheryl Strayed
Say yes to that which excites you. Say yes to that which gives you purpose. Say yes to that which brings you joy. Say yes to saying no to that which does none of these. The days are too short, time too limited, to spend living it any other way.
Joy and sorrow are the light and shade of life; without light and shade no picture is clear ~ Hazrat Inayat Khan
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If more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world ~ J.R.R Tolkien
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The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet ~ James Oppenheim
To worry is to feel anxious or troubled about actual or potential problems. It doesn’t solve or comfort or help, yet we still spend significant time worrying. We have to realise that it’s not going to change anything. In fact it only makes things worse. We worry about things that haven’t even happened, and all it does is rob us of any joy we have at that moment in time. We cannot predict everything, but that doesn’t mean that everything will turn out badly. Face the problem when it comes to it. We don’t want to look back on our lives wishing we’d spent less time worrying about things that were just drops in an ocean. Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joys.
When we think about happiness, we automatically place it on the opposite side of the spectrum to sadness. But if we think about sadness, it does not only tear away our happiness but also builds it. Like the seed sprouting out of the soil or the dawn breaking over the horizon, true happiness can only be realised when sadness or its various other forms have had a hold on us. Sadness moulds us. It teaches us about ourselves. It strengthens us. We’d never truly understand happiness, gratitude, or resilience without sadness. Don’t fight it, because nobody can ever be free of it. Instead, thrive in it.
Tis the season to be jolly. There’s something about the holiday time that changes our outlook on life. And that’s primarily because it’s a time for giving, for generosity and for kindness. We’re more forgiving and accepting of others’ flaws and mistakes. We’re more charitable and hospitable towards those less fortunate. We open ourselves up, letting love both infiltrate and radiate. Christmas time really goes to show how much giving can boost our happiness, our energy and our sense of worth. It’s a beautiful cycle that shouldn’t be underestimated or broken. It’s a spirit that we should hold onto all throughout the year.
Believe in yourself. Sometimes it’s the hardest part. But you shouldn’t need someone to convince you. Be your most devoted admirer. Be your most enthusiastic cheerleader. Be your own hero. Because you deserve all the joy and love and success you wish for. And much of what stands in your way is yourself. We doubt our abilities and our visions. But you can do anything. We all can. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. Come out from the shadows your hiding in. And let yourself shine.