How to judge someone’s character: Look at how they treat those who can’t give them anything. Look at how they treat those they don’t need or want anything from. Look at how they treat those in need of something. Do they treat them as equals? With respect and kindness? Do they help those who need it without expecting anything in the return? Or are they only interested in those who offer them something? The answers to these questions say a lot about a person.
You deserve to be treated with kindness and compassion. You deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. You deserve to be told the truth. You deserve to be cared for and attended to, but you also deserve your freedom and independence. You deserve to be appreciated and loved. You deserve to be who you are. Don’t let others treat you differently. Everyone deserves a second chance, but those who manipulate you, abuse you, ignore you, judge you or try to change you are not worth your time, your care, your love or your tears. Don’t waste it on them, but give your gift of kindness to someone who reciprocates.
We hear that it only takes a few seconds for someone to decide whether they like someone else or not. We can always make a good impression. But we’re still all different. Sometimes we’re not always performing or presenting our best self. And we all have different versions of what our best selves are. Instead of writing people off, we should understand and accept people’s flaws, emotions and impressions. We should give people a chance – even more than one, not just a few seconds. Because it’s ok for each of us to both be ourselves or have a bad day. Let’s spend less time judging others. Let’s embrace other people’s differences and work to find respect and rapport with them. Let people be themselves, as much as we want to be ourselves too.