It’s said that our language was born out of our need to gossip. But why have we made it so normal? We tear people down instead of lifting them up. We judge people instead of accepting them. People become afraid to be themselves, become obsessed with reaching perfection, become ruthless towards anyone who poses a threat to their fragile sense of security. And sadly, the cycle continues. Let’s use our words kindly. Let’s give people a hand. Let’s accept everyone for who they are. Let’s celebrate our differences. Imagine what we could do by spreading love instead of hate. How much better the world would be – even yours.
Don’t give forgiveness because it’s the right thing to do. Rather because it’s the most liberating thing to do. When you forgive someone or yourself, you wash your body of grudges, judgement and hate. Forgive just as much for yourself as for others. Give people the benefit of the doubt. Give people a second chance. Even when that person is you. Nobody is perfect. And so that isn’t something we shouldn’t hold against each other or ourselves. Practice forgiveness and moving on.
We hear that it only takes a few seconds for someone to decide whether they like someone else or not. We can always make a good impression. But we’re still all different. Sometimes we’re not always performing or presenting our best self. And we all have different versions of what our best selves are. Instead of writing people off, we should understand and accept people’s flaws, emotions and impressions. We should give people a chance – even more than one, not just a few seconds. Because it’s ok for each of us to both be ourselves or have a bad day. Let’s spend less time judging others. Let’s embrace other people’s differences and work to find respect and rapport with them. Let people be themselves, as much as we want to be ourselves too.
It is natural for us as humans to be drawn to telling and listening to stories. But sometimes, we’ve got to be careful what we say and what we repeat, especially when it comes to judging, interpreting and defining other people. The line between fact and fiction can become pretty foggy.
We can never pretend to know another person inside and out. We shouldn’t allow one’s opinion of another to affect our own judgement of them. We should never make conclusions about another based on the stories we’ve heard about them. We shouldn’t even hold another’s past against them.
Instead, let’s be genuine, inclusive and accepting. Let’s be open to the fact that people can change and surprise us. Let’s realise that everyone is going through their own battles, unbeknownst to us, and they affect them in profound ways. Let’s be forgiving. Let’s be fair. We all make mistakes, but we all have something valuable to offer. Let’s try to see the good in people.