Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re doing the best you can. It’s easy to hold onto our mistakes. But that’s the past. Learn to let go and move forward. Learn to look ahead. Learn to forgive yourself. None of us need to be superhuman to have a super life.
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Sometimes all we can do is make the best out of a bad situation. We cannot control what other people say or do, and that can negatively affect us. We cannot always predict where we’ll spend most of our time, and that can negatively infect us. As much as we want to let the bad situation take over, we have to try to find the piece of light in the darkness. There’s always something to be discovered, something to be learned, something to be enjoyed. We just have to teach ourselves to see it. Even if it’s a simple as realising you need a change.
Hope to never grow up. Never stop learning. Never stop questioning. Never stop believing. Never stop exploring. Never take life too seriously. Never stay trapped in a life you hate. Never say never. But there’s a certain magic that our young selves see in the world that slowly loses its sparkle as we grow up. Never lose that magic. If you do, life loses its magic too.
Life is a journey. Life is a teacher. Life is a blend of experiences and moments. If life was always easy, always perfect, always predictable, it would be boring. And it would be letting us down. Keep learning, keep falling, keep growing. Life cannot be magical without making us thrive, survive, and feel alive.
It’s easy to punish ourselves for the things we’ve done in the past. But the truth is, since then, we’ve changed – we’re not that person of the past anymore. And more importantly, we can change. Stop beating yourself up for something you did when you were a different person. Start focusing on where you’re going and how you’re going about it. Don’t let the sadness of the past rob the happiness of now. Always forgive, but never forget, learn from your mistakes, but never regret.
If you were to give yourself advice, how different would it be to the advice you’d give a friend in a similar situation? We often tend to be harsher on ourselves, less forgiving and sympathetic, with higher expectations and levels of criticism. We don’t always give ourselves advice, but give ourselves lectures. But we deserve some compassion, love and understanding from ourselves. We’re not perfect. We make mistakes. And that’s ok. If we learn and grow, there’s no unwritten rule saying we should punish ourselves. We have to take care of ourselves. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
If we plant a handful of seeds into the ground, we cannot predict how tall and strong they’ll grow. Some might grow more than others. But if we nurture them with love and care, we may find different results. More will grow than not. It’s the same with us. We might be planted in this world in particular conditions. But that doesn’t define who we are or how successful we are. We define that. If we’re willing to put the time in, if we’re willing to take care of ourselves, and most importantly, if we’re willing to believe in ourselves, we’ll exceed what we might have once been deemed capable of. We’re more than our circumstances. We’re our passion, our persistence and our positivity. If we stick it out in the darkness, we’ll quickly find the light.
Learn from the people smarter than you, instead of comparing yourself to them. Practice with the people stronger than you, instead of competing against them. Work with the people who inspire you, instead of trying to copy them. Keep your eyes open, keep your mind sharp, but keep your heart true. Nobody can be a better you than you.
It’s easy to say we would have done something differently. It’s also easy to wallow in a mistake. The hard part isn’t battling with the guilt, humiliation or frustration, it’s rather accepting your mistakes, learning from them and moving on. Sounds simple but we don’t do it often enough. Sometimes you’ve got to forgive yourself. Sometimes you’ve got to push past the pessimism. Because taking the easier road or the harder one distinguishes the fighters from the cowards, the believers from the doubters. It’s hard to fight for yourself and to believe in yourself. But who knows what you can achieve if you do. A mistake recharges the fighter and the believer. Mistakes happen to everyone, but it’s up to you what happens next.
We’re never going to feel ready. We cannot predict every eventuality, but that’s what makes life exhilarating. We cannot learn everything beforehand, but that’s what makes life an adventure. Sometimes we just have to have faith in ourselves that we’ll make it. Because faith, belief, and confidence in ourselves is the only magic dust we need in our pocket. So get started, no waiting around any longer. If we wait until we’re ready, we’ll be waiting forever. You’ve got everything you need – everything else you’ll pick up on the way.