Sometimes we simply need to count to three. Inhale. Exhale. When the frustration starts to boil over, or the anxiety starts to consume us, or the sadness starts to overwhelm us, sometimes we’ve got to take a few seconds to breathe. Sometimes we’ve just got to remind ourselves that not all moments will be like this. If we’re having a bad day or a series of bad days, there’s no reason why we won’t ever have a good day. Counting to three won’t wash our problems away but it can at least bring us a little closer to an answer. Because when we breathe, we think more clearly. And when we think more clearly, well, our demons will eventually melt away.
Relationships and friendships aren’t always ships that sail smoothly. Sometimes we’re taken for granted. Sometimes we’re treated poorly. Sometimes we’re barred from being ourselves. Sometimes people pour their negativity onto us. Done consistently, it can take a toll on us. It drains our happiness, shreds our confidence and strips away our positivity and faith in the world. Sometimes we have to let those people go. Because we deserve better. We deserve people who give as much as they take. We deserve people who appreciate us in both their good and bad times and who are there for us in our good and bad times. Sometimes we have to let people go in order to welcome others.
People change. Time ticks on and life goes on, so people change. Sometimes they’re tested to new extremes. Sometimes old wounds are ripped open. And we all respond differently. People break, people fight, people forget, people grow. And we cannot expect others to respond the same way we would. We cannot tell others how to feel. Sometimes all we can do is listen and comfort. Other times all we can do is accept and move on. People change. We change. Try to make the best of it.
When we let go, we free ourselves. When we let go of expectations, we free ourselves of disappointment. When we let go of what people think, we free ourselves of boundaries and limitations. When we let go of our fear of failing, we open ourselves up to memorable and life changing experiences. When we let go of unhealthy relationships, we open ourselves up to self-worth and self-love. Let go of the anchor tying you down to the seabed, and float to the surface. Don’t live in reflections and darkness, but soak up the light and breathe in that fresh gulp of air.
It’s scary to admit when things aren’t working. Sometimes it’s because we live in hope they will get better soon. Sometimes it’s because we know there will be a long journey ahead of us. Sometimes it’s because we have no idea what the future will hold. It can be hard to let go of something we know without knowing what we’re giving it up for. But we all deserve to be happy. And that is out there somewhere. Happiness is the one thing we cannot give up on. There is more out there than we can imagine or ever know. If we’ve tried our best to make things work and they still don’t, be brave enough to walk away from them and venture into new things. Sometimes we have to subtract when things aren’t adding up. You owe it to yourself to try.
There are times when we feel like we’re drowning. We’re trying to tread water but our body feels heavy and we’re on the verge of letting the waves wash over us. Sometimes we’re giving into those voices inside our heads and other times we’re giving into the voices of others, telling us we’re not good enough. But we need to hold onto whatever has got us this far, whether it’s passion, love, confidence, belief, courage. We need to tune out those voices and play our fight song. Because you are good enough. You are strong. You can do this. You still have it in you. Prove those voices wrong.
Sometimes life is a struggle between knowing when to push on and when to give up. It’s hard to know when it’s the last straw, the last chance or the last attempt. Giving up is perceived as weak, lazy and cowardly. But giving up can also be brave and essential to our happiness. To give up on a bad career, on a relationship that’s going nowhere, or on a path that’s leading us in the wrong direction is admirable. To give up can bring relief, peace and freedom. It can give us back our time, our focus, and our energy. Of course, there are times when we shouldn’t give up. And sometimes we just have to follow our instincts to know what to do. But ultimately, we shouldn’t give up on our own wellbeing. Sometimes that requires some holding on and some letting go. Whichever it is, let it lead you forward.