Question of the week: How are you spending your time?
It’s a question I’ve been asking myself a lot lately. We all have the same amount of time in a day, yet we spend it so differently.
Some of us go after our goals with everything we have but don’t stop to enjoy it, some of us dream bigger than our imagination but hardly put anything into action, and some of us go along with the path set out for us even if it’s not what we want. And there’s every other combination in between.
We all have less and less time as we get older. Are you wasting it? We need to be more conscious of the excuses we’re using and be more honest about what is holding us back. Only then can we move onto what makes us happier and keeps us fulfilled. We might not spend every day to its highest potential, but we can always do better, before it runs out.
Taking on a new challenge can be thrilling. But the excitement can also wear off and quickly turn into overwhelm or dread when we think about our goal. Passion is essential, but some practical steps can really help us stay on track:
- Take it a week or a month at a time – instead of looking at the habits you want to form as ones you’ll need to live by forever or looking at goals as ones that will take years to achieve, dedicate yourself to your new challenge for a week or month. This could be challenging yourself to a new habit for a month or splitting out your goal into mini-goals that take you in the right direction. Having a ‘deadline’ in reach really helps to push yourself, stick to it and remind yourself that its doable. At the end, not only can you celebrate, but accomplishing it will leave you wanting to do more.
- Plan it out – there’s no point in throwing yourself into something without first having a plan of action. A habit tracker that you can tick off every day or a calendar where you schedule in time to reach your goal helps to keep you accountable and organised, ultimately helping you deliver! Otherwise you’ll quickly find that you aren’t getting anywhere.
- Have a place to visualise – keep your sights set on that goal you’re trying to reach every day. I like to use a Pinterest board to collect pictures that represent my goals. Other ideas include a physical vision board on the bedroom wall or a daily morning ritual of visualising yourself accomplishing your goals. Whatever works for you!
Have any practical tips of your own? Please share in the comments!
Sometimes we get that high from life, that burst of energy, that swing in our step. We want to conquer everything on our list of goals and visions. But after a while, we lose that high, that burst, that swing, because we’re so overwhelmed, disorientated and exhausted by our plans. We need to realise that we sometimes have to start from the bottom of the staircase and sometimes we can only see the first few steps. Don’t try and create a whole new lifestyle with the snap of a finger. To keep that high, that burst, that swing, we have to pace ourselves and realise that we will need to work on ourselves and our craft. You’ll go much further if you take your time.
Be unapologetically you. We all have so much to give, and that gift is beyond rules, regulations and labels. Our thoughts, beliefs and attitude define who we are. Our actions, our gestures, and our quirks define who we are. Our passion, our words and our lifestyles define who we are. We define who we are. We might never be fully satisfied with who we are, but there’s no need to hide ourselves away. There’s plenty of space for everyone to express themselves. Being unapologetically you is the best thing you can do.
Light is always its brightest in the darkness. It signifies hope for better things to come in a time of trouble. But we cannot expect better things to just fall at our feet. To surround ourselves with light, we have to seek it. We actively have to move towards the light, how ever slowly that may be. Because it’s only when we are truly willing to change, that change can actually run its course, whether it be a lifestyle change, a shift in mindset, or a cutting of negative ties. If you want light to come into your life, you have to stand where it’s shining.
We would never be able to fall in love if we weren’t willing to take the chance of heartbreak. We would never be able to taste victory without accepting the possibility of defeat. We would never progress forward without overcoming the threats of limits. We would never learn to appreciate what we have without having lost something valuable. We would never know how strong we can be without being pulled apart piece by piece. Let’s not hide from the beauty of life in fear that we will find run into unpleasantries. Life is only experienced in its entirety when we are open to all its offerings. Let’s not become one of those who lives in “the gray twilight that knows not victory or defeat”.
Let’s not wait for someone else to notice, to initiate, to fuel. Let’s not be afraid to be that somebody who makes that change. Let’s not feel powerless, because there is always a way to start something, to add something, to be something. We are no less capable, confident or prepared than any other. Our act might seem simple and insignificant, but that is how any change starts: with a question, with an appeal for help, with a shift in our own perspective, with an idea, with a calling out of another, with time. I always wondered why somebody didn’t do something about that. Then I realised, I am somebody.
Change is terrifying, testing, and inevitable. But it is also essential, beneficial and awesome. Here’s a few reasons why:
- We are challenged to experience new things. Most of us are afraid of change because it is so unknown and ultimately out of our comfort zone. But where’s the sense of adventure, curiosity and wonder in staying in the same place? We are given the opportunity to explore more of the world and its array of colours through change.
- Along with our new experiences, we grow as a person; we learn not only about the situations we are put in, but also about ourselves. We might make mistakes, but they are never wasted, because we are always taking in what we should do better next time, how to approach different situations and how to adapt.
- Life will progress with change. Without being able to experience or learn anything new, we would never be able to see the flaws in ourselves or the world. And without change, we would never realise that impossibilities can become possibilities, that limits are only figments of the imagination, that what we know now is only a snippet of what we can know. Without change, we would never be able to start again or improve. Change means that we can become whoever we want to be and create a world that we want to see.
It’s so discouraging to hit a low point in any aspect of our lives, whether in relationships, in a project, in our work, in our goals, especially when we know we’ve been putting in the effort and time. It’s like we’re running uphill but going nowhere or desperately trying to find land but stuck in the middle of the sea. But let’s not give up. Even if we have to walk, crawl, float, take a breath, we mustn’t give up, because we are getting closer and closer. With each step, we’re covering more ground, we’re getting better, and we’re figuring out what will and won’t work. With each step, we’re moving forward, even if we feel like we’re going backwards or around in circles. Don’t stop now; what you’re looking for might just be round the corner.
The moment you’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before a miracle happens.
(Image: Created myself using picmonkey.com; Picture: theunboundedspirit.com)