4 ways negativity and misery enter our lives


When we’re aware of what brings us down, we can let it go and watch ourselves rise up.

 Negative people

The energy outside affects the energy inside. People who complain all the time, people who blame you for their problems, people who bring you down, people who laugh at your dreams, people absorbed in their own worlds, people who always take and never give, these are all toxic people, if they do it consistently. People who do not add any love or joy to your life aren’t worth keeping. It isn’t selfish to cut them out, take a break, or limit the time you see them. 

 Other people’s opinions

We’re haunted by other people’s words, opinions and thoughts. Maybe we want to please someone. Maybe we think someone knows better. Maybe we feel we don’t have a choice. But if we’re never listening to our own heart, we’ll never feel truly satisfied, content or excited about life. We’ll add water to the seeds of regret, bitterness and misery. Do what makes you happy; even if it doesn’t always work out, at least you’re following your own path.

 Self-limiting and self-doubt

Many of us struggle with low self-confidence. In fact, we could probably argue that it’s nowadays a part of life, at one stage or another. We’re afraid of failure. We punish ourselves for mistakes. We think we’re not good enough or bright enough or beautiful enough. But it’s all in our head. You are good enough. You have to find that belief, that faith, that courage buried inside and see how much your outlook changes.

 Trying to fit in

Finding someone to talk about is an ancient pastime; we often gossip to fit in, to connect with a group of people and exclude someone else. On the flip side, we’re afraid to be that person who is excluded. We compare ourselves to others, always trying to erase the things that make us different. We focus on what’s ‘wrong’ with ourselves and what we don’t have. Trying to fit in breeds self-doubt and self-loathing, which leads to negativity. Instead try embracing and loving yourself and doing the same for others.

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It’s going to be ok

  

Sometimes our mind is clouded by misery and we just can’t seem to shake it. It’s like we’re magnetised to the feeling and it keeps dragging us closer and closer to it, and we can’t seem to stop it. It’s going to be ok. It’s going to be more than ok. It’s going to get better. Whatever the stress, the anxiety, the sadness, the hurt, the anger, you will get through it one way or another. You just can’t give into the pull that keeps dragging you down. You have to try to escape its grasp. Because you will escape it, as long as you keep trying. It’s going to be ok. It’s going to be more than ok. It’s going to get better.

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Pieces of Paradise

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Paradise. Heaven. Utopia. Nirvana. Bliss. These are spaces we aspire to inhabit, even though, in reality, there are no such places on earth. But there are pieces of paradise everywhere. In both our relationships and our solitude. In both tranquil nature and bustling cities. In both prosperity and breakdown. In both hard work and relaxation. And so on. We’ve just got to learn to look for them, instead of always focusing on the miserable moments. If we do, those pieces of paradise begin to outweigh and wash away everything else. Keep an eye out and embrace them.

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Stretch Yourself

Seth Godin quote

We’ll never know unless we try. Our minds have a habit of deceiving us into believing everything it conjures up. And usually, it’s not all fairy tales and happy endings; in fact, we insist that such things don’t exist and that instead we’re destined to fail or be miserable. But sometimes we’ve just got to ignore that nagging voice and step out in spite of it. Now let’s not be extreme – whilst wading out of our comfort zone, we don’t want to find ourselves in the panic zone. Because that’s where the fear, misery and failure wait to lure us into reclusion and darkness. No, we have to be smart and stretch ourselves just a little beyond our comfort every time. That’s where magic lies. That’s where we learn, grow and live. We’ll never know unless we try. Stretch yourself.