We all slip up from time to time. We let our fears get the best of us, we procrastinate on our goals, we get frustrated over something small. It’s ok to slip up, as long as you get back up on your two feet. Don’t punish yourself for a mistake, don’t feel discouraged by a mistake and don’t feel guilty about a mistake. We’re all human. As long as you’re trying your best, you’ll go far, mistakes and all.
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Stop beating yourself up about things that have been and gone. We all make mistakes. The past is dead, so why do we keep bringing it back to life in the present? Why do we keep carrying it on our backs, only to suffer under the weight? We cannot change anything. Nor should we regret anything. Everything is a learning curve; even steps backwards are actually steps forward. Stop living in the past and work on being a better you in the moment you’ve got.
The worst risk we can take is never taking a risk at all. The worst mistake we can make is never making a mistake at all. Where’s the journey? Where’s the adventure? Where’s the growth? Where’s the magic? You won’t find it hiding yourself away. You won’t find it if you never try anything. Some will work out and some will not. But out of those things that don’t, something better might. Losing that would be the biggest risk, mistake and regret.
That moment when we are falling can be the most terrifying. We cannot tell how far we’ll fall, how hard the hit will be or how devastating the aftermath will be. Rarely do we ever picture ourselves catching a second wind. But we can. Falling isn’t a problem if we don’t let the fall be the end. We all make mistakes but we can all recover from them. We can bounce back and catch our second wind. We might not land in the same place as before; it will be an even better destination. Believe you can and it will.
We all have potential to unlock. We all have more to offer and more to be. And we ourselves hold the key. Prosperity isn’t all down to luck or genetics or circumstances. It mostly comes down to perseverance, passion and the belief in our potential. We all start at the bottom, swimming breathlessly in the darkness. But if we keep going, we become stronger and see clearer in the dark. What makes someone accomplished is because they kept going, despite other people’s doubtful comments or even their own pessimistic thoughts. Don’t give up on yourself so easily. The world around us is just an abundance of dreams knitted together to create reality. If other people can do it, so can we. We are all good enough. We all have potential. It’s the biggest mistake to believe you don’t.
Even though we often tend to relive it, we ultimately cannot change the past. And whilst punishing ourselves seems to fit what we think we deserve, we need to learn to forgive ourselves. Because without forgiveness, there’s no moving forward and then there’s no future. We should always forgive ourselves for our mistakes, but here are a few times when we definitely should:
- When we let other people down – sometimes we have to do what’s best for us. And sometimes that’s borne out of things beyond our control. We cannot always please everyone and satisfy our own passions and dreams at the same time. At the end of the day, we have one life and we have to live it.
- When we trust the wrong person – we cannot see the inner workings of another person. So we cannot expect ourselves to know another’s intentions or predict another’s actions. Trust might be hard to hand out again next time, but don’t give up on it, because relationships are beautiful. They mean you’re living and not hiding.
- When we think we should be perfect – we set high expectations of ourselves, even if they’ve been created by somebody else. We all have limitations that we either need to accept or overcome. Don’t be so harsh on yourself. It’s ok to mess up. That’s how we get better.
- When we gave up on something – we all have times when we give up on something for a particular reason, whether temporary or permanent. And later on, we might come to regret that. But it’s never too late to start on an old or a new ambition. Learn a lesson from the last experience and push past that hurdle this time.
There is no sense in punishing your future for the mistakes of your past. Forgive yourself, grow from it, and then let it go.
What do you need to get better at forgiving yourself for?
When we’re faced with a decision, one of the questions pressing in our minds is whether we’re going to make the right choice. A lot of the time, it’s not obvious. But let’s not let that stop us. There are many routes to an abundant, prosperous and happy life – because life is what we make of it. If we end up going one way or another, we will be happy and successful. Life is open to us and holds so many beautiful possibilities that we can capture. We shouldn’t get caught up in the what ifs. And if we happen to make a bad choice, we can still move forward. Don’t let anything hold you back. Life is an open plan waiting for you to embark on.
How often do you forgive? To what end do you forgive? What does forgiveness mean to you?
Forgiveness can be cleansing, but it needs to be used properly; forgiveness shouldn’t be a tool to escape tough situations or an act of submissiveness to being manipulated and pushed around. At the same time, we shouldn’t withhold forgiveness as a means of control or as a way to make ourselves feel worthy.
Forgiveness is powerful. It is important to remember that forgiveness doesn’t always mean we go back to the way things were or that we have to trust someone again. It means we accept the past and endeavour to make the future better. It means we let go of our negative energy towards others or ourselves and move on to focus on what lies in front of us. It means we learnt something from a mistake or hardship and we’re equipped for similar battles ahead. Use forgiveness wisely, not sparingly.