Power of Positivity #5: It’s not you, it’s them

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Everyone has the right to have feelings. It is ok to feel offended by someone. It is ok to feel hurt by someone. It is ok to feel left out by someone. It is ok to have feelings that don’t make us feel good. But I want to tell you that the actions and words of another person reflect more about them than about you.

Those other people have feelings too. They are encompassed with feelings of insecurity, jealousy, being out of control, and even hardship, which they feel they need to project onto those around them. They think that by putting another person down, they will rise and feel better. They think that by leaving someone out, they will be in control and have less of a chance of being left out themselves. They think that by shouting abusively at someone, their own worries and anxiety will disappear. They like to find fault and blame in others so that they don’t have to look in the mirror.

Their behaviour is inexcusable. But sometimes it is inescapable. We have to be strong enough to not let those peoples feelings of insecurity or instability become pillars in our own lives. We are not defined by what other people say about us. We don’t need to let negativity control our lives. Those people generally target the people who have everything going for them, so don’t let them take that away from you. We need to take these people as examples of who we don’t want to become. Negativity may breed negativity, but we can stop the cycle by standing up for ourselves. There is always a way out; it might be hard to find but don’t give up. We need to look in the mirror and see what a beautiful person we are. We need to learn to be happy in our own skin. Our opinion of ourselves is the only one that matters. To stay positive and to flush away those negative and inexcusable comments and actions of another person is to be free and fly. As the saying goes, if you want to soar with the eagles, then don’t hang around the ducks.