We often mistakenly associate acts of courage with great leaders and heroes. We often forget that courage lies within each of us. Courage doesn’t need to be on a large scale. We don’t have to put our life in the balance to be courageous. And we don’t need to be strong all the time to be courageous. No, courage can simply be admitting how you feel. Courage can be refusing to live by other people’s rules. Courage can be letting go or holding on. Courage can be choosing not to give up. Courage can be realising that you are your own hero. And that courage within will most likely nurture someone else’s courage too. Don’t be afraid of yourself, who you are and how you feel. Own it.
We are constantly consuming, whether consciously or unintentionally. We listen to people’s thoughts and beliefs and we soak up different energies. We are inspired by the world around us and find examples in those we look up to. We take in people’s opinions and place their expectations on our shoulders. We are spurred into action by other people’s actions and words. They’re all influencing us and create our perspectives. We need to be aware of what we’re absorbing and what we’re overlooking, by how much and in what light. What we consume defines the courses we take.
Birdy’s captivating voice coupled with emotional lyrics make her single ‘Words as Weapons’ an inspirational treasure. Words are a lot more powerful than we give them credit for. They move people. They stay with people. They transcend generations. A simple phrase can lift someone up or tear them apart, drive a mass of people forward or hold them back. They heal and they scald. With those piercing, blistering, cruel words directed at us, we should take Birdy’s advice: to have no fear and to shed no tears. When we take control of how words affect us, that is when we triumph over the power the words possess. When we rise above them by valuing ourselves, when we ignore them by focusing on our own opinions, and when we do not allow them to push us down, we convert those words into fuel and passion. Don’t let the words trap you. You decide what’s best for you.
You use your words as a weapon dear, but your blades don’t hurt when you have no fear. You think that you’re deep under my skin, you’re trying to keep me suffering. If you use your words as a weapon, then as a weapon, I’ll shed no tears.
Everyone has the right to have feelings. It is ok to feel offended by someone. It is ok to feel hurt by someone. It is ok to feel left out by someone. It is ok to have feelings that don’t make us feel good. But I want to tell you that the actions and words of another person reflect more about them than about you.
Those other people have feelings too. They are encompassed with feelings of insecurity, jealousy, being out of control, and even hardship, which they feel they need to project onto those around them. They think that by putting another person down, they will rise and feel better. They think that by leaving someone out, they will be in control and have less of a chance of being left out themselves. They think that by shouting abusively at someone, their own worries and anxiety will disappear. They like to find fault and blame in others so that they don’t have to look in the mirror.
Their behaviour is inexcusable. But sometimes it is inescapable. We have to be strong enough to not let those peoples feelings of insecurity or instability become pillars in our own lives. We are not defined by what other people say about us. We don’t need to let negativity control our lives. Those people generally target the people who have everything going for them, so don’t let them take that away from you. We need to take these people as examples of who we don’t want to become. Negativity may breed negativity, but we can stop the cycle by standing up for ourselves. There is always a way out; it might be hard to find but don’t give up. We need to look in the mirror and see what a beautiful person we are. We need to learn to be happy in our own skin. Our opinion of ourselves is the only one that matters. To stay positive and to flush away those negative and inexcusable comments and actions of another person is to be free and fly. As the saying goes, if you want to soar with the eagles, then don’t hang around the ducks.