At times, we can feel lost and confused. At times, we can feel anchored and overwhelmed. At times, we can feel numb and spiritless. And sometimes it can be hard to figure out how to break free from those emotions. Simply, it lies with change. Sometimes we have to change our minds, change our plans, and change our paths. Sometimes we have to change our perceptions, change our attitudes, and change our motivations. Sometimes the change is a leap and sometimes the change is incremental. Don’t be afraid of it. Own it, because life doesn’t stop for anyone. Put yourself in the driver’s seat and change it up.
It’s ok to want to be alone, to take time to process and to understand our thoughts and feelings. But if we ever feel overwhelmed, if we feel anxious, scared, hurt or depressed, it’s ok to reach out. Don’t be afraid to express yourself; it might be hard to put everything into words, and sometimes we just need to cry or be held by someone instead. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable by opening up. We don’t need to, and shouldn’t have to, face things alone. And if we do find ourselves alone, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you’re not alone. Everyone feels alone sometimes. Everyone has felt those same feelings or feels those same feelings as you right now. You’re not alone in this. And you’re going to be ok.
Feeling overwhelmed can take a number of forms, often panic, stress or frustration. It is a natural reaction to feeling incapable and out of depth, feeling tired and buried in trouble, or feeling tremendous loss, confusion, or great uncertainty. Here are a few things to keep in mind the next time you feel overwhelmed:
- Take a minute to breathe – Whether you need to have a moment of panic, stress, or crying, do it and then let yourself have some time to calm down. When we sit down, breathe, and maybe even talk about it with someone, we can begin to see the issue a little more clearly and positively. Rushing into the problem or ignoring your emotions will only make it worse later on.
- Imagine the best outcome to the situation – A lot of the time, we feel overwhelmed because we are always expecting the worst. It’s easier said than done, but try to stay positive. If the ‘best outcome’ is too much pressure, try imagining an outcome that will please you at the very least. This way, we will become more motivated and proactive, and ultimately reach that better outcome more easily than we would when we expect the worst and feel as if we shouldn’t even bother.
- Remember that the worser outcome will not be as bad as you think – It’s in our nature to create problems in our head that are enhanced by our imagination. It’s important to remember that even if our plans don’t work out the way we hope they will, that doesn’t mean our life won’t work out the way we hope it will. Life is full of learning curves and trips down unexpected passes. Whatever happens, you will be better than ok.
- Break it down – Whether it is a problem or a goal that is making you feel overwhelmed, break it down into digestible pieces. Plan it out and write it down. Then, you can tackle each piece individually, actually accomplish it, and before you know it, the problem not only seems less monstrous, but is dealt with much more quickly.
When do you feel most overwhelmed and how do you cope with feeling overwhelmed? Let me know in the comments!