I speak to everyone the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university ~ Albert Einstein
The number of people we cross paths with is infinite. We’ll never remember them all and they will never all remember us. But many will. And it’s important to recognise the imprint we leave them with. They won’t all be on the same level as us. They won’t all help us climb the ladder. They won’t all stay in our lives. But we should still treat everyone with the same level of respect, kindness and realness. Nobody deserves to be treated with disrespect, ignorance or arrogance. Let’s leave people with a warm feeling rather than a chill.
Some people will not say thank you, say well done or say congratulations. Some people will not acknowledge how hard we try, how much time we put in or how much we sacrifice. Some people will not accept us for who we are and will pick at our imperfections. Some people suck. But we don’t need them. We shouldn’t rely on others to validate what we do or who we are. We need to be that source of inspiration, encouragement and love for ourselves. We know who we are and decide what we do, and we don’t need anyone else to tell us that we’re beautiful, hardworking and loved. Don’t let anyone make you doubt yourself. Love yourself and believe in yourself.
Every time you touch another soul, let them take a piece of you with them. Every time you wipe a tear, listen attentively, lend a hand, shout encouragement, thank politely, stand up for someone and so on, you establish, reinforce and restore the cycle of kindness. You can brighten up someone’s day. You can be that one good thing in someone’s otherwise horrible day. And that makes all the difference. Kindness is a currency we can abundantly share and never run out of, that we all possess and all can use. And someone else will pass it on. Don’t be afraid to give it away. One day someone will pass it back to you at a time when you need it most, because someone else didn’t let the cycle break.
Relationships and friendships aren’t always ships that sail smoothly. Sometimes we’re taken for granted. Sometimes we’re treated poorly. Sometimes we’re barred from being ourselves. Sometimes people pour their negativity onto us. Done consistently, it can take a toll on us. It drains our happiness, shreds our confidence and strips away our positivity and faith in the world. Sometimes we have to let those people go. Because we deserve better. We deserve people who give as much as they take. We deserve people who appreciate us in both their good and bad times and who are there for us in our good and bad times. Sometimes we have to let people go in order to welcome others.
The holiday season can sometimes be stressful. We want to have a magical time with our loved ones, and that can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to make it happen for everyone. To make it a little less stressful, we sometimes have to alter our perspective. Our expectations won’t always match our reality, and that’s ok. Sometimes the most memorable times are the spontaneous ones. Sometimes the most memorable times are the quietest ones. But most of all, the most memorable times depend on who we’re with. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what we do, but who we share this time with. It’s the ones we’re with who will ultimately make it magical. Let’s not stress about the holiday time. Let it happen naturally.
People change. Time ticks on and life goes on, so people change. Sometimes they’re tested to new extremes. Sometimes old wounds are ripped open. And we all respond differently. People break, people fight, people forget, people grow. And we cannot expect others to respond the same way we would. We cannot tell others how to feel. Sometimes all we can do is listen and comfort. Other times all we can do is accept and move on. People change. We change. Try to make the best of it.
No matter how much we’d like to, we cannot control how the world and the people in it work. Sometimes it brings dark clouds to pour above. And even if we’re sat inside, we can hear it beat down against the roof. The only choice we’re really left with is whether we let it shake us, take us, and break us or whether we forbid it from doing so. Sometimes the only thing we can hold onto is the faith that it will be alright in the end. The rain will stop. The crops will grow. Right now, the sun is behind the clouds. But just because we can’t see it now, doesn’t mean it isn’t there.